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#392 From: Angeline* <lancya@...>
Date: Thu Mar 31, 2005 10:03 am
Subject: easy............ difficult
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EASY  .......    DIFFICULT
 
Easy is to get a place is someone's address book.
Difficult
is to get a place in someone's heart.


Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult
is to recognize our own mistakes


Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult
is to refrain the tongue


Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult
is to heal the wound...


Easy is to forgive others
Difficult
is to ask for forgiveness


Easy is to set rules.
Difficult
is to follow them...


Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult
is to fight for a dream...


Easy is to show victory.
Difficult
is to assume defeat with dignity...


Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult
to see the other side...


Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult
is to get up...


Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult
to give its real value...


Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult
is to fulfill that promise...


Easy is to say we love.
Difficult
is to show it every day...


Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult
is to improve oneself...


Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult
is to learn from them...


Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult
is to take care of it so not to lose it.


Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult
is to stop thinking it and put it into action...


Easy is to think bad of others
Difficult
is to give them the benefit of the doubt...


Easy is to receive
Difficult
is to give


Easy to read this
Difficult
to follow


Easy is keep the friendship with words
Difficult
is to keep it with meanings.

 

 



Angeline - Kuwait


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#393 From: rajfrancis2004@...
Date: Fri Apr 1, 2005 6:43 pm
Subject: Francy sent you a Yahoo! Greeting
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#394 From: "Ambassador Purplelady" <lydiadsouza@...>
Date: Fri Apr 1, 2005 11:49 am
Subject: :) Guardian Angel on the Job
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Guardian Angel on the Job

A man was walking in the street when he heard a voice: "Stop! Stand still! If you take one more step, a brick will fall down on your head and kill you."

The man stopped and a big brick fell right in front of him. The man was astonished.He went on, and after awhile he was going to cross the road. Once again the voice shouted: "Stop! Stand still! If you take one more step a car will run over you and you will die."

The man did as he was instructed, and a car came careening around the corner, barely missing him.

"Where are you?" the man asked. "Who are you?"

"I am your guardian angel," the voice answered.

"Oh yeah?" the man asked. "And where the hell were you when I got married?"


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Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.
Choose your words - they are powerful and bring life or death as you speak.

#395 From: Raj Pereira <rajfrancis2004@...>
Date: Sat Apr 2, 2005 6:19 am
Subject: Ie Ie Katrina
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M:{Ie ie Katrina
Na na envchim-na}2
F:Tuka Baikala tavn Mahim vortam
Mahim tavun tuka Bendra vortam
Bendracha tea ranant tuka loving xikoitam.
 
F: {Chol Chol envchim-na
M: Kiteak baie Katrina}2
 
F: Bottatte vodde gevn dixi, bel puri bandun dixi
Baikal anim amerika sangata ietam.
 
F:1. Sodanch mhojea patlean ietai loz nastana
Katrin Katrin munnon tuji lodin chukana
M: Potlun dhorun vengenth mhojea mog kortana
Loz kiteak sogllo sonvsar hanv dhakaithana
 
F:Chol Chol envchim-na -- ietam
 
F: 2. Sadhanch chale mhaka lagon mitio martele
Tuklam karun vengemt dhorun mog kartale
M: Utram tujim aikon baie mhaka amal zalem
Katrin baie tuvem mhaka katrint galeim.
 
M:{Ie ie Katrina
Na na envchim-na}2
F:Tuka Baikala tavn Mahim vortam
Mahim tavun tuka Bendra vortam
Bendracha tea ranant tuka loving xikoitam.
 
3. F: Bara soron tera laglim prai zali mhaka
Anvkar ravon puro zalem kazor za moga
M: Vis hozar dot ani ghor tum di mhaka
Na tor baie dismis kelem tu mhaka naka
 
F: {Chol Chol envchim-na
M: Kiteak baie Katrina}2
 
F: Bottatte vodde gevn dixi, bel puri bandun dixi
Baikal anim Amerika sangata ietam.


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#396 From: "Ambassador Purplelady" <lydiadsouza@...>
Date: Fri Apr 1, 2005 11:03 am
Subject: Way to Pray! from Kids' Point of View!
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Way to Pray!
How to make the ACTS prayer method accessible to your child.
By Greg Asimakoupoulos

When Norma Steven's four children were younger, she had a clever way to make them mind their manners. Using the tune to "Jesus Loves Me," Norma would sing, "Please and thank you, pardon me, very little words you see, yet they can distinctly tell if a child's been brought up well."

The rote prayers we use to introduce our kids to communicating with God are just as catchy. But children need to learn how to talk to God about more than eating and sleeping. Meaningful conversation with the Lord is more than parroting "God is great, God is good" before diving into a plate of spaghetti.

Although I've benefited from the ACTS (Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, and Supplication) method of prayer, it's far too complicated for young children. After all, the words adoration, confession, thanksgiving, and supplication aren't part of their basic vocabulary. Curiously, each of those four categories relates to a phrase with which our children are quite familiar—and can open the door to genuine communication with their Heavenly Father.

I love you!
Adoration is nothing more than telling God we love him. Kids know what it means to express love to those they care about. They demonstrate their heartfelt affection to pets, grandparents, and parents (if not their siblings!) with hugs, drawings, or priceless words.

For children, communicating love is a natural response to feeling loved. So we need to help our little ones see the many ways God shows his love to them. Reminding them God sent Jesus into the world is a big part of that assignment, but there's more. God's love is seen in his desire to forgive us when we make mistakes. It's also seen in the beauty of his creation and in his provision of family and special friends.

When we help our kids understand how much God loves them, they'll be more inclined to express their love to him. Along with saying "I love you" to your kids daily, why not encourage them to tell the Lord how they feel about him every day?

For Jody Moreen, expressing affection to God is a priceless privilege. Having grown up without a relationship with her birth parents, she never was able to tell her earthly dad she loved him. But she could tell her Heavenly Father. While Jody and Scott Moreen raised their three boys, they determined to teach their kids how they could communicate love to God.

"We told our boys prayer was as normal as breathing," Jody explains. "To model that, we intentionally prayed simple prayers at meals, bedtime, and before school. We wanted them to know God is our 24-hour Wonderful Counselor, and that he's accessible anytime."

I'm sorry!
Children aren't capable of understanding the theological basis and consequences of confession and absolution, but they sure do know what it means to say, "I'm sorry." Our calling as parents is to move beyond coaching our kids to apologize to a sibling or a friend to explaining that all misdeeds ultimately are an offense against a holy God. We're to help our kids seek the Lord's forgiveness by encouraging them to ask to be forgiven.

For David Brown, pastor to children and families at the Evangelical Covenant Church in Glen Ellyn, Illinois, prayers of confession need to be kept simple. "I've always encouraged parents to help their kids see how uncomplicated prayer is," Brown says. "I tell them God wants to hear the feelings of our heart in our own words. And that includes what I call 'sorry' prayers. When we confess our sins to God, it should be just as straightforward as when we tell others we're sorry for something we did wrong."

Once our sons and daughters know that admitting guilt results in feeling clean inside, they'll be more eager to say, "I'm sorry, Lord!" Obviously, if we're quick to wipe the slate clean when they apologize to us, they'll be more inclined to take their chances of confessing mistakes to a Father they cannot see.

Thank you!
Thanksgiving isn't a once-a-year holiday for pigging out. It's an action that indicates our awareness of God's goodness. Fortunately, if we've been manners-conscious in our parenting from the get-go, our kids will have learned the importance of expressing gratitude to those who act generously toward them early on.

My friend Dave Veerman wanted to find a practical way to help his daughters open their hearts to the Lord about the little and big issues of their young lives. He knew that Kara and Dana were exposed to prayer. He was even convinced they realized the importance of prayer. After all, the girls heard their dad and mom pray all the time.

"My girls knew prayer was a value in our family," Dave told me, "but passing on a value is not the same thing as teaching a skill. I knew I needed to find a way to help them grasp the mechanics of talking to God."

One day when Dana said "thank you" to her dad when he helped her with something that was too hard for her to do on her own, Dave had an idea. If his little girl knew how to express appreciation to her parents for the good things they did for her, she surely could use the same two words to let her Heavenly Father know she was grateful. He encouraged her to be mindful of ways God was looking out for her and letting him know she appreciated it with a simple "Thanks, Lord!"

For Dave, helping his daughter understand the "thanksgiving" component of ACTS was achieved by piggybacking on a concept with which she already was familiar. By seizing the opportunity of an unplanned moment, a dad taught his daughter how easy it is to express thanks to God at any time.

Using the ordinary events and conversations of everyday life to convey spiritual truth isn't a new concept. That's exactly what the Lord instructed Moses to pass on to the children of Israel three thousand years ago. In Deuteronomy 6:6-7, God said, "These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up."

Finding teachable moments may not be as difficult as you might think. For my buddy Dave, teaching the simplicity of prayer was as easy as catching his daughter being grateful and taking his cues from that.

Please!
Supplication is what "S" stands for in the ACTS prayer acronym. It's just a fancy word for respectfully asking a favor. The operative adverb is respectfully.

If you're like most parents, your first attempts at civilizing that self-centered descendent of Adam in diapers involved the word "please." "Say please, Nathan," you countered as that strong-willed son of yours asked for something you alone could provide. Even if the object your toddler requested was something as benign as more milk or another glass of apple juice, you did well to insist on a less demanding petition. By insisting on "please" when petitions are made of others, we teach our kids they aren't as entitled as they might think they are. We help them place themselves in a position of undeserving dependence.

Our task is to help our kids see that a one-word prayer such as "please" is one God applauds. After all, Jesus encouraged us to ask, seek, and knock for what we believe we need. He also challenged his disciples (and us) to think of themselves as children who readily ask their Heavenly Father for all the necessities of life.

"Please" is a prayer our children should be empowered to pray everyday. It's a word that reminds them to ask for whatever they feel they need. From the courage to stand up to the schoolyard bully to praying for a grandfather who's recovering from heart surgery, our kids need to know God wants them to approach him with their hearts' desires.

Isn't it amazing? Words we've normally associated with growing polite kids actually serve to help them grow in their ability to talk to the Lord. These phrases can simplify the mystery of prayer so our kids can pray throughout the day without the need for a huge theological vocabulary.

Greg Asimakoupoulos is a writer and the father of three daughters. He and his family live in Illinois.

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Ambassador Purplelady
Post Box 21380 Safat
13074 Kuwait
Telefax  - ++965-561-2729
Cell       - ++965-650-8990
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Email    - lydiadsouza@...

 
Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.
Choose your words - they are powerful and bring life or death as you speak.

#397 From: "Francy" <rajfrancis2004@...>
Date: Sat Apr 2, 2005 12:42 pm
Subject: New Konkani Songs & Recipes Uploaded
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Dear Friends,
 
We have uploaded a few konkani songs and recipes in our webiste and the details are as under.  Have a nice weekend.
 
Mog ashundhi
 
Francy

Whats New ?


Konkani Friends Launches new group "Kudlites" - dated April 2, 2005

This group is for all Mangloreans who would like to have more fun and entertainment. Send any songs lyrics, jokes, humor, anything that would get smile on the face of our mangloreans. Join this group make friends, expand your contacts, and entertain people. No forwarded messages and no restrcitions.  More..........


 New recipes uploaded  - dated April 2, 2005

  1. Chicken Green Curry
  2. Steamed Pomfret
  3. Potato Bonda
  4. Beef Curry - ( Rosachi Kadi )
  5. Beef green masala
  6. Tupa Dosa
  7. Yam dal curry
  8. Bhakri
  9. Mutton Stew


Konkani Songs Lyrics - dated  April 2, 2005

  1. Aicho dis
  2. Cecilia
  3. Filomena
  4. Hanv saiba polotoddi vetam
  5. Ie Ie Katrina
  6. Kalzamth ullas
  7. Kazaracho dis
  8. Keppi bail
  9. Kuxi zata
  10. Undra mhojea mama
  11. Mhojea mogachem hem geet
  12. Nid podonam
  13. Novro pavonk na
  14. Paulina


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#398 From: "Francy" <rajfrancis2004@...>
Date: Fri Apr 1, 2005 6:19 pm
Subject: One more Super Hit Konkani Song " Dhudu vo"
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{Dhudu vo , dhudu vo sonvsaranthlom,
Monxea jivanak gorzeak pavncho,
Dhudu vo, dhudu vo,
Monxeacha faideacho,
Dhudu natlo lo monis to besto.}2
 
1. {Dhudu aslear moxeak soglem asa,
Chintlelem kaam soglem jari zatha,
Soirim, dhairim, soglim lagim yetat,
fakath dhudu aslear.}2
 
Dhudu ------------------- besto.
 
2. {Dhudva kathir monis kithem korta,
Aploch jiv thari kastanth ghalta,
Apleath ragtak negar korumk favta
Fakath dhudu zodcheak}2
 
Dhudu ------------------- besto
 
3. {Malgademchi ti ek sangnim asa
Dhudu deklear modem ubey zatha
Maan, moreyadh thaka soglem meltha
fakath dhudvak venglear} 2
 
Dhudu ------------------- besto
 
 
 
Mog ashundhi
 
Francy
 
 
 
 
 
 

#399 From: "Ambassador Purplelady" <lydiadsouza@...>
Date: Fri Apr 1, 2005 11:30 am
Subject: Discipline Basics for your growing up toddler
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Discipline Basics for your growing up toddler
Your guide to the ages and stages of development

You already know that the toddler years bring big changes for your child, but you may not have realized how much your role would change. Up until this point, you haven't really had to deal with behavior issues. But once your child can walk and talk, she needs your help to learn what she can and can't do. She needs your loving discipline.

These years set the stage for your child's future behavior. That's why it's essential that you take a long-term approach to disciplining your toddler. In his book Creative Parenting (Dodd-Mead), Dr. William Sears is clear that discipline not be seen as "negative punishment," but rather as gentle and positive guidance to help your child learn self-control. According to Sears, the best way to guide your toddler is to get to know him—his temperament, likes, dislikes and fears. As you learn more about your child, you'll find it easier to predict how he'll react in a certain situation and what you can do ahead of time to prevent behavior problems.

As you begin to discipline your toddler, keep these tips in mind:

Remove your child from situations that aren't safe or seem to increase defiant behavior. Guide her toward positive behavior with short, clear instructions, as you remind her of her limits and acceptable conduct. If you know she gets grumpy around naptime, schedule play dates or other activities for a part of the day when she'll be more likely to behave.

Try to keep his perspective in mind. If he gets upset when it's time to put his toys away and go to the store, remember that his tantrum is not disobedience. He's simply having fun with his toys and doesn't want that fun to end. Rather than getting angry, pick him up and carry him out of the playroom, away from the toys. Help your child transition from one activity to the next by telling him, "It's almost time to put the toys away and go to the store," a few minutes before you have to leave.

Use a time-out when your toddler doesn't respond to your words. Even 10 to 20 seconds on the couch can help your child calm down and end a power struggle or hurtful behavior.

Let your words and actions be guided by what you know instead of how you feel. In other words, don't let how you feel (tired, angry, stressed) dictate how you treat your child. Be firm but kind with your words and discipline.

Remember that her misbehavior usually isn't intended to annoy you. She's simply enjoying her growing independence and trying to figure out how her world works. When she misbehaves, focus less on what she did wrong and instead tell her and show her the acceptable behavior.

Explain your rules and expectations ahead of time. If you're about to spend time with other children, talk about negative behavior (hitting, biting, not sharing) and how it can hurt other people. Children at this stage learn best through repetition and practice, so take the time to talk about positive ways he can behave. Be consistent and praise him when he obeys or remembers the rules.

Spend time getting to know your toddler's temperament and plan activities according to his needs. Too much activity can add to more battles if your child is quiet by nature, while a more active child might need more stimulation to keep her busy.

Truly effective discipline is about positive relationships—understanding your child and then training her to understand and stay within her limits.

—Debra Fulghum Bruce
Health writer, mother of three
 
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Ambassador Purplelady
Post Box 21380 Safat
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Telefax  - ++965-561-2729
Cell       - ++965-650-8990
SMS     - ilivebyfaithonly@...
Email    - lydiadsouza@...
 
Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.
Choose your words - they are powerful and bring life or death as you speak.

#400 From: Salu Soz <salusoz@...>
Date: Sat Apr 2, 2005 9:10 pm
Subject: 15 Links on the death of Our Holy Father on 3rd Sunday 1.07 am Indian Time
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AP: Vatican Says Pope John Paul II Has Died
http://ap.tbo.com/ap/breaking/MGB8P1Z827E.html
 
 
 
 
 
Gaurdian: Vatican to Issue Stamp When Pope Dies
http://www.guardian.co.uk/worldlatest/story/0,1280,-4909228,00.html
 
 
 
Turkish Press: Pope dies in Vatican
http://www.turkishpress.com/news.asp?id=39681
 
 
Baku Today: Pope dies, millions mourn after historic 26-year reign
http://www.bakutoday.net/afps/english/shared/int/050402201320.sidexrcl.html
 
Glasgow Evening Times, UK: Pope dies aged 84
http://www.eveningtimes.co.uk/news/5037241.html
 
Washington Post: Pope John Paul II Dies at 84
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A21229-2005Apr2.html
 
Scotland on Sunday, UK: Pope Dies after Lingering Illness
http://news.scotsman.com/latest.cfm?id=4344759
 
 

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#401 From: "Francy" <rajfrancis2004@...>
Date: Sat Apr 2, 2005 9:48 pm
Subject: The holy father - remains only in the hearts of the people from now on.
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Yahoo! PhotoAP Photo

Vatican Says Pope John Paul II Has Died
(AP) - John Paul II, who led the Roman Catholic Church for 26 years and helped topple communism in Europe while becoming the most-traveled pope, died Saturday night ( GMT ) in his Vatican apartment after a long public struggle against debilitating illness. He was 84. "We all feel like orphans this evening," Undersecretary of State Archbishop Leonardo told the crowd of 70,000 that had gathered in St. Peter's Square below the pope's still-lighted apartment windows. The assembled faithful fell into a stunned silence before some people broke out in applause -- an Italian tradition in which mourners often clap for important figures.

 

 

Here are some more links given by Mr. Ancy Paladka – giving more information

 

CNN: Vatican announces death:
http://edition.cnn.com/2005/WORLD/europe/04/02/pope.dies/index.html

 

AP: Vatican Says Pope John Paul II Has Died
http://ap.tbo.com/ap/breaking/MGB8P1Z827E.html

 

CBSNews: Pope John Paul II Dead At 84
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2005/04/02/world/main684865.shtml

 

BBC: Pope John Paul II dies in Vatican
http://www.bbc.co.uk/go/homepage/int/breaking/title/-/news/1/hi/world/europe/4399715.stm

 

Reuters: Pope John Paul Dies
http://www.reuters.com/newsArticle.jhtml;jsessionid=UNVKI0WQD2XGYCRBAEKSFEY?type=topNews&storyID=8068214

 

Marketwatch: Pope John Paul II dies at 84
http://cbs.marketwatch.com/news/story.asp?guid=%7B2B4CA2FD-BC59-43EB-B115-A95E32BA0513%7D

 

Gaurdian: Vatican to Issue Stamp When Pope Dies
http://www.guardian.co.uk/worldlatest/story/0,1280,-4909228,00.html

 

 

WNEP: Pope Dies at Vatican
http://www.wnep.com/Global/story.asp?S=3155064&nav=5ka4YD3w

 

Turkish Press: Pope dies in Vatican
http://www.turkishpress.com/news.asp?id=39681

 

ABC News: Pope John Paul II Dies
http://abcnews.go.com/International/Pope/story?id=630321&page=1

 

Baku Today: Pope dies, millions mourn after historic 26-year reign
http://www.bakutoday.net/afps/english/shared/int/050402201320.sidexrcl.html

 

Glasgow Evening Times, UK: Pope dies aged 84
http://www.eveningtimes.co.uk/news/5037241.html

 

Washington Post: Pope John Paul II Dies at 84
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A21229-2005Apr2.html

 

Scotland on Sunday, UK: Pope Dies after Lingering Illness
http://news.scotsman.com/latest.cfm?id=4344759

 

Science Daily: Pope John Paul II dies at 84
http://www.sciencedaily.com/upi/index.php?feed=Science&article=UPI-1-20050402-15095200-bc-vatican-pope-obit.xml

 

Lets all pray for the soul of our holy father.

 

 

Francy


#402 From: "santhoshpinto2000" <santhoshpinto2000@...>
Date: Sat Apr 2, 2005 9:55 pm
Subject: (No subject)
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Pope John Paul II Passes Away



 	  Prayers are being said across the world following the death
of the pontiff

-- Obituary - The Pontiff 1920-2005
Pope John Paul II, the Polish pontiff who led the Roman Catholic
Church for more than a quarter century and became history's most-
travelled pope, has died at 84, the Vatican has announced.
The pontiff's poor health worsened further as he suffered from a
failing heart and kidneys, and he died at 8.37pm British time the
Vatican said.

Related Links
 	 · The Vatican: Official site· Cathport: Catholic
Internet portal· Leave your thoughts and prayers

Millions of Catholics in the UK joined worldwide prayers, while tens
of thousands of faithful have kept a vigil in St Peter's Square.
Tributes poured in from fellow clergymen and the faithful for the
pontiff, who shunned hospital to remain in his quarters.
Former Prime Minister Baroness Thatcher paid tribute to Pope John
Paul II as the greatest pontiff of modern times and the "moral
force" behind victory in the Cold War.

 	  · Profile: Pope John Paul II

"We should remember Pope John Paul II not just as the greatest Pope
of modern times but also as a valiant fighter for the truth," she
said.
"His life was a long struggle against the lies employed to excuse
evil. By combating the falsehoods of communism and proclaiming the
true dignity of the individual, his was the moral force behind
victory in the Cold War.
"Millions owe him their freedom and self respect. The whole world is
inspired by his example."

#403 From: "Ambassador Purplelady" <lydiadsouza@...>
Date: Sat Apr 2, 2005 9:11 pm
Subject: The Right Words
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The Right Words
============

Lord, give me the right words to say
To broken hearts that come my way
To those who have been hurt before
That, I not hurt them any more

To those whose hearts have hardened up
To those who won't hold out their cup
That, Lord, You long to overflow
With love and mercy.  Lord, let me know

That I might have the words to say
That I might plant a seed today
That glory would be given to You
Through all I say and all I do

Lord, give me the right words to say
More hearts are breaking every day
They're out there crying in the night
I long to help them see the light

But, fragile are those souls and weak
So this is why Your words I seek
And pray Thee give me words to say
That I, not one soul, turn away.

~by Susan Tier~
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Telefax  - ++965-561-2729
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Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.
Choose your words - they are powerful and bring life or death as you speak.

#404 From: "Lydia D'Souza" <lydiadsouza@...>
Date: Sun Apr 3, 2005 3:49 pm
Subject: Fix, Forgive, Forget! Should I forgive and forget an assault?
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Fix, Forgive, Forget    Should I just "forgive and forget" an assault? 

by Rabbi Dr Asher Meir

Q. Though my working relations at work have always been good, recently a supervisor made a very aggressive and threatening outburst. When the boss heard of this, he apologized and also had the supervisor apologize. The supervisor was not subject to any sanctions at all! I feel I have been treated very shabbily, and I also find it very difficult to continue working with this supervisor. Should I take action or just "forgive and forget"?

A. I am sorry that you had to go through such a harrowing experience. Let's consider the best reaction to such a trial.

One of the most important foundations of Jewish belief is that a person can not obtain forgiveness from God unless he first does his best to seek forgiveness from the person he has wronged. Our law explicitly states that repentance and the Day of Atonement (Yom Kippur) are ineffective unless the wrongdoer makes amends to the victim.

Our tradition also states that it is proper for the wronged individual to be forbearing and not vindictive. These dual obligations give human beings a fighting chance to restore constructive relations after unfortunate incidents where one person wrongs another in any way. (1)

While a victim should be forbearing and not vindictive, it is completely appropriate to demand that the wrongdoer make a proper atonement and proper amends. There is no demand that we should just "forgive and forget" without trying to rectify the situation! Often only after we fix can we forgive, and only after we forgive do we need to forget.

I think the apology which was offered to you was an important step and I believe you should acknowledge this to the person who assaulted you. This gesture should encourage you to think that forgiveness is possible, but it is perfectly proper for you to explain that in order to forgive whole-heartedly certain steps are required. It sounds to me that you think three steps are in order:

1. If this incident had been taken seriously it should have been written up in the person's file;

2. You may also feel that you are due some sum of damages for the assault itself.

3. If you feel that as a result of the aggression you can't continue working, you probably consider yourself effectively fired. (This is sometimes called "constructive dismissal.") Thus you may want to demand severance pay as well.

A constructive response would then be to say: "I'm happy that you regret your actions and want to make amends. I will be able to forgive you if I see that you and the company genuinely acknowledge the seriousness of the transgression by including a write-up in the employment record, and are also willing to compensate me for my job and my suffering". Then you should state a sum which you sincerely think is a fair amount for these items - not an exaggerated amount in order to extort money, but also not a small, merely symbolic amount if you feel that you have suffered real damage. While no physical harm was done to you, our law acknowledges that shame at an attack can be one aspect of damages. (2)

It's reasonable for the other side also to want to negotiate, and there is nothing illegitimate about it. Perhaps they may persuade you that an oblique write-up would be enough for a one-time outburst, or that a smaller amount of money should really be sufficient. The overall idea is that you should never be stubborn and vindictive in refusing to forgive, but you also have no obligation to accept a settlement which you feel is not an adequate recompense for your experience.

From the wrongdoer's perspective, the appropriate reaction is to express regret, to ask forgiveness and at the same time to offer to make amends for any damage. Just as the injured party doesn't have to accept any offer made by the damager, likewise the wrongdoer doesn't have to automatically give in to any demand if he is convinced that it is excessive. The injured party should make a reasonable demand, and the injuring party should be forthcoming with a respectable offer. In the case where the two sides greatly differ on how much the damages should be, it is best if they can agree on some kind of impartial arbiter such as an arbitrator or mediator.

You would think it would be an easy thing for a person to clearly enunciate how he thinks he has been wronged and to work to rectify the matter, or for a wrongdoer to sincerely apologize and work to make a reasonable and fair settlement. Actually, this is one of the most difficult things in the world. When a person is wronged, there is a natural tendency to be hostile and vindictive. This attitude just leads to increased conflict. When a person gets over this attitude, very often he just wants to "forgive and forget". Yet this approach is also not constructive - the problem is a real one and needs to be dealt with, not forgotten. I hope that you will find the strength to seek a constructive resolution to your situation, and that your former employer will find the strength to cooperate.

Of course if you genuinely prefer just to put the whole thing behind you, there is nothing wrong with deciding to forgive and forget. The problem is that many people think they are putting something behind them and in actuality they are only suppressing it. So by all means do not feel obligated to pursue the matter if you really just prefer to forget about it. But you must know that it is perfectly acceptable for you to seek an equitable settlement of all issues.

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#405 From: "Francy" <rajfrancis2004@...>
Date: Mon Apr 4, 2005 1:22 am
Subject: Be an Optimist
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Some people criticize no matter what. It does not matter how well something is done, they will always find fault with it. They have made a career out of criticizing. They are “Career Critics”. They have made a career out of criticizing. They criticize as if they will win a prize at a contest. They will find people like this in every person and in every situation. You will find people like this in every office and family. They go around finding fault and telling everybody how bad things are and blaming the whole world for their problems. These people are energy suckers. They will go to the cafeteria and drown themselves in 20 cups of tea and smoke to their hearts content with one excuse – they are trying to relax. All that they are doing is causing more tension for themselves and for others around them. They spread negative messages like plague and create an environment conducive to negative results.

 

There was a hunter who brought an amazing bird dog. This one-of-a-kind  dog could walk on water. The hunter was looking forward to showing off his new acquisition to his friends. He invited a friend to go duck hunting. After some time they shot few ducks and the man ordered his dog to fetch the birds. the dog ran on water to retrieve the birds. The owner was expecting his friend to comment or compliment him about this amazing dog, but never got one. As they were returning home, he asked his friend if he had noticed anything unusual about his dog. The friend replied “Yes, infact, I did notice something unusual. Your dog cannot swim”.  What an attitude?

 

Who is a pessimist?

 

Pessimists are:-

 

  • Unhappy when they have no troubles to speak of.
  • Feel bad when they feel good, for fear they will worse when they feel better.
  • Spend most of their life at complaint counters.
  • Always turn out the lights to see how dark it is.
  • Always looking for the cracks in the mirror of life.
  • Forget their blessings and count only their troubles.

 

Caution: Looking for the positive does not necessarily mean overlooking faults.

 

Be an optimist – How?

 

  • Be strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
  • Talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.
  • Make all your friends feel that you appreciate good qualities and strengths.
  • Look at the sunny side of everything.
  • Think only the best, expect the best, and work for the best.
  • Smile from your heart.
  • Spend some time on self improvement – Personality developments.
  • “Be too big for worry and too noble for anger”.

 

 

Mog ashundhi

 

Francy

 

 

 

 

 


#406 From: "Sunitha " <sunitharodrigus@...>
Date: Sun Apr 3, 2005 10:40 pm
Subject: Last moments of Pope John Paul
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Cardinal Angelo Sodano, the Secretary of Vatican City led hundreds and of thousands of mourners in St Peter's Square Sunday morning a mass for the repose of the soul of Pope John Paul II.



The St. Peter's Square was packed with capacity and people had to line up until the Via della Conciliazione, where huge television screens were placed for a better view of the ceremony.

Rome is experiencing a profound sadness and silence. Hundreds of journalists are busy with live broadcasts and obtaining interviews of people who are flooding the square to witness the situation.

 

The Vatican City State flag and Italian Republic flags are lowered to half as a sign of mourning.

 

Sunitha - UK

 

 


#407 From: "Sunitha " <sunitharodrigus@...>
Date: Sun Apr 3, 2005 10:37 pm
Subject: A memory of our Pope John Paul during his visit to India
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The pope blessing the people of Mangalore


Madtha-Fr Prashant Madtha reading the translation of the pope's message in Kannada at his visit to Mangalore in February 6, 1986


Augustine Rodrigues of Kadri Kambala offering a momento to the Holy Father at his visit to Mangalore.



H R Alva, Prominent Mangalorean community leader with Pope during his visit to Rome


Albert W D`Souza of Printania with Pope John Paul II during his visit to
Rome in 2004

 

Condolences from our Manglore:

A large number of people kept visiting the Bishop's House on Sunday to condole the demise of Pope John Paul II last night.

A large portrait has been placed at the reception lobby to enable visitors to place floral tributes and offer prayers. A condolence book has been placed near the portrait to write messages.

Many dignitaries paid a visit to the Bishop's House. One of the first ones to call on and offer condolences was former state chief minister Veerappa Moily.

The media community, including the electronic media, took the Bishop's message on Holy Father's death.

At the Rosario Cathedral


The Cathedral has been decked with black banners as a mark of mourning. A cut-out of the late Pope has been placed at the entrance.

Sunitha - UK


#408 From: Angeline* <lancya@...>
Date: Mon Apr 4, 2005 6:37 am
Subject: Apostolic Church
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Apostolic Nunciature in Kuwait, Yemen, Bahrain and Qatar
Apostolic Delegation for the Arabian Peninsula
 
The signing of the Book of Condolences
for the sad demise of
His Holiness, Pope John Paul II
will be held at the Bishop's Residence,
next to the Cathedral of the Holy Family,
Sour Street, Kuwait City
from 9:00 am to 1:00 pm and
from 4:00 pm to 6:00 pm
on the 4th and 5th of April 2005.
____________________________________________________________________________
A Solemn Mass
will be said for the Pope's intention
on Wednesday, the 6th of April 2005
at 6:00 pm at the Cathedral of the Holy Family in Kuwait City.
 
 
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THE KUWAIT NATIONAL SERVICE TEAM (KNST) is celebrating the SILVER JUBILEE OF THE CATHOLIC CHARISMATIC RENEWAL in Kuwait at the Holy Family Cathedral on April 7, 2005 with a Mass at 6.00 p.m. followed by a Cultural Program.  To prepare for the Silver Jubilee, a RETREAT will be conducted on April 4,5, and 6, 2005 at the Holy Family Cathedral from 7.00 p.m. to 9.00 p.m. The Retreat will be preached by Fr. George Anthony from Nagpur who has been invited to Kuwait for this occasion.

 
Following are the dates for First Holy Communion and Confirmation in the Parishes:

Parish/Community

First Holy Communion

Confirmation

 Ahmadi  April 22, 2005  April 22, 2005
 Salmiya   April 28, 2005  May 19, 2005
 Arab Community  May 06, 2005  May 06, 2005
 Cathedral  May 13, 2005  May 27, 2005

 


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#409 From: "Francy" <rajfrancis2004@...>
Date: Mon Apr 4, 2005 12:24 am
Subject: Somia dhin Vasumia - One more Kanthar
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Ch:

{Somia dhin vasum ia to boro} 3

Tacho mog mit mir nathlolo.

 

1. Dhin vastolom somiak sorvai kallim,

Vakhanntolom mhoima sanz sokallim.

Rochnnar tho sarg ani hea sonvsarim,

Rai amcho sorvancho sodankallim.

 

Somia ……………. nathlolo

 

2. Dev sadanch aplem utar pallta,

Dhin dublleank tho adhar dita.

Bhukhelleank apovewn jevonn dita,

Dukhest kallzank buzvonn tho dita.

 

Somia ……………. nathlolo

 

3. Kakult apli kuddeank to dakhoitam,

Adhar natlelank daien tho unch ubarta.

Parkeank aple savllent to dovorta,

Vidhvank niradharaeank to pavta.

 

Somia ……………. nathlolo

 

4. Nitin cholewnk mog to dakoita,

Koteank anitin cholteleank zagoita.

Thachem raz sadam sasnache sasnak,

Sonvsaracher razvat cholaita.

 

Somia ……………. nathlolo

 

 

Dev boro dis dinv,

 

Francy

 


#410 From: Raj Pereira <rajfrancis2004@...>
Date: Mon Apr 4, 2005 12:30 pm
Subject: Funeral Date Announced
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The body of Pope John Paul II lies in state in the Clementina hall at the Vatican April 3, 2005. REUTERS/Massimo Sambucetti
Sunday April 3, 02:51 PM

The body of Pope John Paul II lies in state in the Clementina hall at the Vatican April 3, 2005. REUTERS/Massimo Sambucetti

Pope John Paul II's funeral will be held in Rome on Friday at 9am BST.He will be buried at St Peter's Basilica.The Vatican said the Pope had left behind no will and no particular wishes for his burial.

The College of Cardinals agreed the funeral date and time at a meeting in the Vatican this morning.

However, no date has been announced for the start of a conclave to elect a successor.

The open-air funeral mass will be celebrated by Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, the head of the Vatican Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith.

Vatican officials will take the body of His Holiness through St Peter's Square to the Basilica this afternoon.

The public will be let in to pay their last respects at around 5pm BST and the Basilica will remain open nearly 24 hours until Friday's funeral mass.

Crowds of people have already begun queueing up to pay their respects.

Authorities are braced for up to two million mourners, including more than 200 heads of state and religious leaders.

On Sunday, the Vatican declared nine days of official mourning.

Pope John Paul died at 8.37pm BST on Saturday.

Vatican officials said the 84-year-old died of irreversible cardio circulatory collapse after suffering septic shock.

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#411 From: "Francy" <rajfrancis2004@...>
Date: Tue Apr 5, 2005 4:41 am
Subject: Tar tar chintnam - Konkani Song
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Ch:

Tar tar cimtnam, tar tar sopnam

Monxeachea jivanamt

Axhechim kirnam, zar tar zollnamt

Redtheloim ti monam

Xirkotelim dukant borlelim bognam

Niraxechea tufanamt

 

  1. Motimt cimtnamche vodol utthana

Zagim zathelim axhechi laram

Axhe tavn udetelim tim sopnam

Monxea bamndtoloi  varear ravleram

Zari nirfol zalim kamam tim cintlelim

Jivgatak axhetoloi tum sadam.

 

Ch :…………………………………….

 

  1. Monxea jineant chodit axhenaka

Aichem cimt faleanchea cimtinaka

Dhon va dirvem, sukachem noi tuka

Asleleant sontos pav radanaka

Udello surieo budovn porot udetolo

Tari tum vamchonai aker poryemnt

 

Ch:……………………………………………

 

 

Mog Ashundhi

 

Francy

 

 

 


#412 From: <jeevan_dsilva@...>
Date: Tue Apr 5, 2005 5:24 am
Subject: A fighter called Siddharth... read on
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Siddharth G J's mother and father are proud parents. And that's not
because of his masters in economics with distinction. The 24-year-old
has faced tougher tests, fought bigger bogeys and crossed higher hurdles
with his indomitable fighting spirit.
Siddharth has cerebral palsy.

In medical-speak, that means an affliction caused by the cut-off of
oxygen to the brain at the time of birth or early infancy. It
irreversibly damages the communication between the brain and muscles,
resulting in lack of coordination in muscular movements and defects in
posture.

In real life, it means being considered mentally retarded, being looked
down upon, and being refused admission in colleges and jobs despite an
outstanding academic record.

Siddharth's battles with fate began early. He had jaundice when he was
three days old, and was unconscious for three days. "As he grew, and did
not show the usual landmarks in development, we knew there was something
wrong. It was an extremely shocking news for us," says his mother
Komala.

Some doctors in Bangalore told Komala and her husband Jayakumar that
their son was 'mentally retarded.' "We knew from his responses that he
was as intelligent as any other child - if not more - but that was what
the doctors said."

Siddharth's early childhood was not the usual one with friends and
schoolmates. For eight years, he stayed at home. A neighbour worked with
a special school run by the Spastic Society of India, and Siddharth got
admission there. "The first thing they taught me was how to use a
typewriter. I typed with one finger, and even today, I type with one
finger. Except math, I started doing all my school work on my
typewriter,"
says a smiling Sidhharth. His school followed a different syllabus for
each student, depending on his/her ability. So, Siddharth was sent to
standard II from upper kindergarten.

Sidhharth's father Jayakumar got transferred to Chennai. Siddharth now
had to get used to a new school, a new environment and new challenges.
"I remember I cried when we left Bangalore," he says.

He studied at Vidyasagar, now a well-known school for spastic children.
"It was not as big as it is now," says Siddharth. "I have no words to
describe Vidyasagar's role in my son's life," says his mother.

When he finished standard VIII, the school authorities felt Siddharth
should go to a regular school. Before Siddharth, they had sent just one
other boy to a regular school. "I also feel disabled people should be
studying in regular schools because generally other children, and even
adults, are not aware of the disabled. The attitude of the public is
that the disabled can't do anything. Only when more and more disabled
children are integrated into regular schools will society understand
us," says Sidhharth.

"Initially, it was very difficult for me. Writing, people, the
workload...it was difficult to interact; I felt miserable."
In his standard X board exams, Siddharth took assistance to write his
answers. But the government sends people who are not proficient in math
and science, and "there were times I had to dictate letter by letter,"
says Siddharth. That did not stop him from scoring 98 percent in his
favourite subject, math. He opted for commerce, and in his standard XII
board exams, scored 90 percent.

Happily ever after? Far from it, says Siddharth. "Vivekananda College,
where I applied, looked at me and refused to look at my academic
performance. I was very upset. I asked myself, why are these people not
looking at my marks? Why are they looking at my disability?"

Siddharth's father spoke to the Vivekananda College principal, and also
his teacher at Vidyasagar, Deepthi Bhatia, who is blind. "I assured the
principal that he [Siddharth] would be an asset to the college," says
Jayaram..

College for Siddharth was again a different experience. "Many students
didn't know how to deal with disabled people like me. It is not that
many of them didn't want to make friends with me. They didn't know how
to approach me. As I am a shy person, I also couldn't initiate
conversation."

Despite "sleeping in most of the classes," Siddharth's brilliance shone.
He scored 100 percent in management accountancy and computer science -
the only one in his batch to do so - with an overall 74 percent in Bcom.

Siddharth wanted to do his masters in social work from the prestigious
Loyola College. "I was denied admission to the course I wanted: MSW.
They decided that I would not be able to do MSW because of my
disability. I was angry. How could somebody else decide for me? They
refused to listen to my arguments. Luckily, I had also applied for MA in
Economics. Though it was disappointing to miss out MSW, I joined the
college."

He thought his struggles ended with getting a postgraduate degree with
distinction. That was not to be. When he applied for jobs, people did
not look at his academic record or ability; they saw only his physical
disability. A family friend asked Siddharth to join his public relations
agency.

"Ma'am, all those press releases you received from Prism till a month
ago were written by me," Siddharth says, smiling. With his first salary,
he bought a pair of shoes for his father and gave the rest of the money
to his mother.

But Siddharth wanted a job on merit. "I continued applying to several
places. All of them called me because of my resume. I used to perform
well in the aptitude tests also but the moment they saw me at the
interview panel, they would say, 'We will get back to you.'"

"Big companies like Infosys and TCS [Tata Consultancy Services] appeared
satisfied with my technical knowledge in economics but they did not get
back to me. They don't trust people with disability. This distrust is
very, very bad," says a visibly angry Sidhharth.

At a job fair where there was a separate section for the disabled,
Siddharth gave an aptitude test for ABN Amro Bank. "They were very
co-operative. I passed the test."

At the interview, Siddharth spoke about himself. "They were stunned. On
the spot they said you are selected. I felt damn good! They didn't tell
me what my job would be but I told them I didn't want a data entry job.
I told them I was looking for a research-oriented job. They were very
receptive. For the first time, somebody realised my potential."

Surabhi Nikumbha, one of three on the interview panel, says, "We just
listened to him [Siddharth], rather his story, for 45 minutes. We just
couldn't ask a single question. All three of us were stunned. We didn't
even know how to react. It was an amazing experience.

"His academic performance was exceptional, and you should see the way he
answered our aptitude test. We were also impressed to find him so
independent. He came on his own, did everything on his own. His
department tells us that he is excellent in his work. He is an asset to
us. We are proud to have him in our organisation."

Today Siddharth G J, officer trainee, ABN Amro Bank, examines import and
export documents for compliance with international standards of
documentation. "I am enjoying every moment of it. People at ABN Amro
trust me wholeheartedly. It is just a beginning for me," says our hero.
And he still writes poems. "No, they are not for publishing. They are
very, very personal," he says.

Children like him need only love, affection and encouragement; not
sympathy," says his mother.

#413 From: "Ambassador Purplelady" <lydiadsouza@...>
Date: Mon Apr 4, 2005 7:46 pm
Subject: The Hug
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The Hug
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It was one of those mornings.
You know the type.

Things are tense.

Our infant son had been up all night.

My wife's eyes (along with the rest of her) were weary.

My oldest son, the five-year-old, wasn't feeling his best either.

He was slow getting ready for school.  He understandably didn't feel like going.

It was just one of those mornings.  You know the type.

As I drove him to school, he was quiet.

When parents are tense and tired, the children feel it.  They know by word and gesture when their acts and attitudes are
less tolerated.

After being fussed at, he was sullen.

It was one of those mornings.  You know the type.

I walked him to his classroom as usual.  He walked in, removed his coat and hung it up.

I usually give my son a hug before I leave him in class.  I knew today he really needed a big hug, and maybe, so did I.

He came forward with his arms outstretched.  I bowed down, clasped my arms around him, closed my eyes and hugged him tight.

Normally, I would only hug him for two or three seconds but on this morning, I held him tight as the seconds ticked by like
dashed lines on the highway.

All of a sudden, I felt him get heavier.

Still clinging to my son, I opened my eyes.  I understood why he had gotten heavier.  His feet were off the ground.  He had
curled his legs up and his heels were only inches away from his backside.

He clung.

I clung.

Sometimes in life no words are needed.  The MountainWings Moment is stated in a feel and a fold.  As he folded his legs up and trusted his father to carry all of his weight, he didn't get heavier to my spirit.

I actually felt lighter.

It was a ritual repeated countless times through countless years from countless parents to countless children.

The touch and embrace between a parent and a child, make them both feel more secure.

It was one of those mornings. You know the type.
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Choose your words - they are powerful and bring life or death as you speak.

#414 From: maurice dmello <mmdmello@...>
Date: Tue Apr 5, 2005 2:36 am
Subject: A FAITHFUL REMEMBERS
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A Faithful Remembers….

By Maxwell Pereira

As millions around prayed for the most prominent religious leader in the world, my mind went back to February 1986. The time when Karol Josef Wojtyla visited India for the first time. Of Polish origin and a survivor of the II-World War ravages, he had opted for priesthood and risen to become the Supreme Pontiff of Roman Catholics all over the world, the 261st successor to St Peter in Rome, who chose the name John Paul II when he was elected Pope in October 1978 soon after his predecessor John Paul I died with less than a month in office. 

I recall now my excitement in 1986, as in the run up to the impending visit; I was informed that I would be the PSO (personal security officer) to the visiting Pontiff during the Delhi lap of his India visit. I was there at Palam airport on Feb 2, behind the line up of VVIPs there to receive His Holiness as he stepped out of the plane, and waved to those assembled below even as spontaneous cheers rent the air. President Giani Zail Singh, Prime Minister Rajiv Gandhi and other dignitaries waited patiently for the Pontiff to climb down the ladder, but before they could shake his hands in greeting, there was the Pope bending down fully prostrate on the tarmac and kissing the soil of the country of his visit in blessing. 

Following the ceremonial reception, the first port of call was to the Sacred Heart Cathedral near Gol dak-khana – and throughout the long drive involved, I found myself in a trance, literally in awe in the virtual presence of the man – The Almighty’s representative on earth. An unbelievable unlikely happening even in the wildest of my dreams. The hair on my hands was standing, even as I sat on the edge of my seat just in front of the Pontiff sitting in the back seat of the six-door Presidential Mercedes with Delhi’s then Archbishop Angelo Fernandes – fighting my awe-stricken trance for the alertness needed of a security officer guarding a VVIP. 

There are some unforgettable visages indelibly planted on my mind’s screen of experiences that brought me down to earth to tell me he was still a human: Like when throughout all journeys in Delhi over the next two days, I was acutely conscious and aware of the Pontiff’s hand placed on my right shoulder, even as he conversed with the Archbishop and took in the sights and sounds of Delhi as we travelled. Like the time when a ‘thunderbox’ portable commode of some old nuns from the neighbouring CJM had to be smuggled into the Cathedral Sacristy for the man to do something no one else could do for him in a church without a toilet – an unpardonable lapse of an unanticipated contingency. Like when I, a Catholic boy brought up with immense reverence to the cassock and the ‘habit’ had to push, heave and shove the lot of stampeding Bishops from all over the country at the IG Indoor Stadium, eager to hold the Pontiff’s hand, touch his body or even just the tip of his robes! Like when the accompanying tall Swiss guards on sighting a tiny-tot in the gathering would yell out “bambino, bambino” and His Holiness would hold aloft the baby with delight, for all around to view. Like the time during one of the car journeys, he willingly obliged me and blessed the family rosaries and all the gold that I carried in a pouch just for the purpose. 

And not the least, a personal audience and blessing he granted my wife, three little children, and me just before departing to the airport for other ports of call elsewhere in India. My delight had known no bounds when weeks later the Vatican Nunciature in Delhi had invited me over, for the Papal Nuncio to present me with a parcel of large sized photographs received from Rome, so graciously sent by the Vatican for me and my family to remember our moments with the Pope.  

As I reminisced to transfer thoughts to paper, the Vatican and millions of people around the world were bracing themselves for the apparent inevitable. News reports everywhere announcing that Pope John Paul II is edging closer to death, having suffered multiple organ failure and other complications. Earlier in the day, in what appeared to be the last struggle of his 26-year papacy, the pontiff prayed with aides and doctors as his kidneys faltered, his breathing grew shallow, his heartbeat slowed and his blood pressure plummeted…. the vicar of Vatican City, telling thousands of anxious worshipers gathered in St. Peter's Square, "This evening or tonight, Christ will open the gates to the pope." 

The Pope is no more. He died at 9:37pm (local time) on Saturday, the April 2, 2005 at age 84, even as the more than 70,000 faithful gathered in the square to pray the rosary continued to remain there for further prayers; as the bell in the left tower of St. Peter's Basilica began its death toll, one of the signals to the world that the Pope has died. He died on the 9,664th day of his pontificate. 

850 words

03.04.2005: Copyright © Maxwell Pereira: 60 Ashoka Road, New Delhi-110001. (Tel-23718822).

For Maxwell’s profile, visit:  http://www.maxwellpereira.com/maxwell_flash/index1.htm

Reproduced with author’s permission – Maurice D’Mello

 


#415 From: Ronald Lobo <loboronald75@...>
Date: Tue Apr 5, 2005 8:06 am
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#416 From: Angeline* <lancya@...>
Date: Tue Apr 5, 2005 7:27 am
Subject: Installing LOVE
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Installing Love

 

 

Tech Support: Yes, ... how can I help you?

 

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I've decided to install Love. Can you guide me though the process?

 

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

 

Customer: Well, I'm not very technical, but I think I'm ready. What do I do first?

 

Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located  your Heart?

 

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

 

Tech Support: What programs are running ?

 

Customer: Let's see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge and  Resentment running right now.

 

Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your  current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it  will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off ?

 

Customer: I don't know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?

 

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke

Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and

Resentment have been completely erased?

 

Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is that

normal?

 

Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.

 

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, "Error -

Program not run on external components " What should I do?

 

Tech Support: Don't worry. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

 

Customer: So, what should I do?

 

Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.

 

Customer: Okay, done.

 

Tech Support: Now, copy them to the "My Heart" directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty

programming. Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all

directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely

gone and never comes back.

 

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?

 

Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time. So Love is installed and running.

 

One more thing before we hang up. Love is Freeware. Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.

 

Customer: Thank you, God.

 

Please send this to every one you know. If you delete that is okay,

God's love is not based on emails.



Angeline - Kuwait


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#417 From: "Sunitha " <sunitharodrigus@...>
Date: Wed Apr 6, 2005 12:04 am
Subject: Who will be the next pope??????
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An Italian and a Nigerian cardinal are tied as Irish bookmakers’ favorites to succeed Pope John Paul II.
The early favorites are Dionigi Tettamanzi of
Italy and Francis Arinze of Nigeria, both listed on 11-4 odds.


The Men to Watch

Below is an assessment of some of the top candidates, by region, as viewed by Reese and John L. Allen, the Rome correspondent for the National Catholic Reporter. The names are not in order of electability.

AFRICA

Francis Arinze (Nigeria, born 11/1/32). Prefect of the Congregation for Divine Worship. Cardinal Arinze is at the top of most Vatican-watchers' short list, and the prospect of a "black Pope" has captivated the media. Arinze was born into the Ibo tribe of Nigeria -- his father was a chief -- and converted to Catholicism at age nine. Arinze became a priest when he was 26, and an archbishop at 34. Arinze's strengths include his experience with Protestants and other religions. Protestants and Catholics share much of southern Nigeria, allowing him to hone his ecumenism; in the north of the country, Arinze has developed a good relationship with the Muslim majority. With this background, Pope John Paul II called him to Rome to oversee the Vatican's inter-religious dialogue (with Muslims, Buddhists, etc).

Arinze is conservative theologically, charismatic and sophisticated with a sharp sense of humor. Electing an African pope would appeal to the fastest growing part of the Church -- the Southern Hemisphere. And it would signal that the Church is not just Catholic but catholic -- universal -- no longer a European church.

Wilfrid Fox Napier (South Africa, 3/8/1941). Archbishop of Durban. Ordained at 28, Napier became a cardinal at 58. A quiet man, Napier has seen his share of upheaval: He was archbishop through apartheid, and, as a close friend of Anglican Archbishop Desmond Tutu, he also witnessed at close range the rise of the independence movement in South Africa. He has a strong ecumenical record, and his election would also symbolize the church's transition to the Third World. But he is young, and not widely known.

ITALY

Dionigi Tettamanzi (Italy, 3/14/34). Archbishop of Milan. This man, too, is at the top of everyone's list. Ordained at age 20, and a Cardinal at 63, Tettamanzi appeals to the media and to fellow priests for his personable, low-key style. He is a conservative moral theologian who agrees with Pope John Paul II's views on birth control and sexual matters. He spent 32 years teaching future priests and running seminaries in Milan and Rome.

Some believe that after the long papacy of John Paul of Poland, it's time to elevate an Italian to the papacy. Currently there are 20 Italian cardinals who are eligible to vote, making the Italian contingent the largest voting bloc. And Italy (along with France) embodies the decline of Catholicism in Europe; some observers believe that electing an Italian Pope would spark a greater effort to, as John Allen puts it, "bring prodigal European Catholics back to the fold."

Giovanni Battista Re (Italy, 1/30/1934). Prefect of the Congregation for Bishops (which recommends bishops for the various dioceses). Ordained at 23, he became an archbishop at 53. He also served in the Secretariat of State under Paul VI, responsible for the day-to-day management of church affairs. This job has been in the past a springboard to the papacy, and Re is considered a strong Italian candidate. His downside is that he has always served in the Vatican, and never served as a diocesan bishop, which is a typical qualification for the papacy. Re has exhibited conservative tendencies; for example, he demanded disciplinary action for a priest who took part in a pro-gay rally. However, he is by and large seen as a moderate, and has signaled his support for decentralizing the church. Re could appeal to those looking for a compromise candidate.

Angelo Scola (Italy, 11/7/1941). Patriarch of Venice. Ordained at 28, Scola became a cardinal in 2003. Polished and approachable, Scola is considered an intellectual: He studied at The Catholic University of America in Washington, D.C., and speaks fluent English, as well as several other languages. His particular interest is bioethics and the "culture of life," and he could be expected to be a vigorous advocate of conservative church teachings in that area. Scola told CNN in 2003 that the main challenge to the church is the "fracture" between the church and contemporary culture: "It's very difficult to determine whether this is the fault of the world that has abandoned the church, or the church that does not know how to relate to the world." Allen suggests that Scola is a strong candidate.

Ennio Antonelli (Italy, 11/18/1936) Archbishop of Florence. Ordained at 23, archbishop at 45. Should Antonelli be selected, he would travel the same little-used path as Pope John Paul II -- as an outsider seen more as a pastor than a politician or diplomat. According to Allen, Antonelli has struggled in his relations with the curia and the Italian bishops' conference, where he served as secretary. His special interests are peace and justice. On doctrinal issues, he is orthodox, although he has shown moderation in applying doctrine. For example, he defended divorced Italian politicians, arguing that the church should care more about their policy stands than their personal behavior. He loves the arts, and taught art for several years in Italian public schools.

EUROPE

Godfried Danneels (Belgium, 6/4/33). Archbishop of Mechelen-Brussels. Danneels was ordained when he was 24, and became a cardinal at 49. Some believe that at 77, Danneels may be past the age of electability; moreover, he had a serious heart attack in 1997, which calls his health into question.

Danneels speaks several languages well, including Italian and English. He's a favorite of liberal reformers, as he has expressed what (to this Vatican) are radical ideas. For example, he has suggested that those infected with AIDS should use condoms. He told Allen that he is open to appointing women to run curial agencies. He has advocated that sick or incapacitated popes retire rather than serve for life. And contrary to the pessimism that pervades the church over Western secularism, he has said that there is much of value in Western culture.

Lubomyr Husar (Ukraine, 2/26/1933) Major Archbishop of Lviv for Ukrainians. Husar was ordained at age 25, and became cardinal at 67. This could be the only "American" candidate: Husar fled Ukraine with his parents in 1944, and became a U.S. citizen. He earned a masters degree in social work at Fordham University; he returned to Ukraine in 1978. He's considered a long shot: After the long papacy of a Pole, many believe it unlikely that the electors will choose another East European -- and an erstwhile American to boot. (Husar gave up his U.S. citizenship in 2002. Moreover, Husar would have to move from the Ukrainian church to the Roman Church. But he is very bright, very spiritual, and very popular among fellow Cardinals. And he has presided over a church with married priests, which could kick up some dust on the issue of celibacy.

Walter Kasper (Germany, 3/5/33). President of the Pontifical Council for Christian Unity. Kasper became a priest at 24 and a bishop at 56. Kasper is considered an intellectual and theological heavyweight, having studied at Tubingen (the "big leagues" of European theological academia), and later teaching at Catholic University of America as a visiting professor. He has jousted often and publicly with German Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, the dean of the College of Cardinals and one of the most powerful men in Rome. Kasper leans toward the progressive, reformist end of the spectrum, for example, encouraging divorced and civilly remarried Catholics to return to the sacraments. He has indicated he would like to see a decentralization of the curia. Along with his intellect, Kasper is known for his kind and open manner.

Christoph Schönborn (Austria, 1/22/45). Archbishop of Vienna. Ordained at 25 and a cardinal at 53, Schönborn comes from a priestly background: Over the centuries, some 19 members of his family have been archbishops, bishops or priests. He is fluent in several languages, including English, Italian and French, as well as German, and has traveled widely around the world. His aristocratic sensibilities have not always served him well, however. In recent years, he has made political stumbles in his own archdiocese, and has developed a reputation for being rigid in his theological views. Still, some Vatican watchers consider him the man of the future.

LATIN AMERICA

Jorge Mario Bergoglio (Argentina, 12/17/36), archbishop of Buenos Aires. Trained as a chemist, Bergoglio became a priest when he was 32 and an archbishop in 1998. Bergoglio is a Jesuit, which would make him an unusual and perhaps controversial choice for the papacy. His academic credentials abound: He pursued theological studies in Germany, has published three books and has served as grand chancellor of The Catholic University in Argentina.

Bergoglio has been praised as being a "good pastor" with a "strong capacity for governance with unusual gifts of humility." Indeed, the archbishop shuns a chauffeur-driven limousine, in favor of public transportation.

Cláudio Hummes (Brazil, 8/8/34). Archbishop of Sao Paolo. Ordained at 23 and a cardinal at 66, Hummes began his career as a progressive, opposing Brazil's military government and supporting worker strikes. He became more conservative under Pope John Paul II. In July 2000, when a Brazilian priest suggested that condoms could be justified to fight AIDS, Hummes threatened disciplinary action. Yet he still has strong social justice inclinations, arguing that people should organize to defend their rights, and often reminding government leaders that the church defends private property, but "with social responsibility." Many believe his balance of doctrinal orthodoxy and social engagement would make him an appealing candidate for Pope.

Norberto Rivera Carrera (Mexico, 6/6/42). Archbishop of Mexico City. Ordained at 24, Cardinal at 55, Rivera Carrera has been outspoken against globalization, poverty, and political corruption in Mexico. He taught ecclesiology at the Pontifical University of Mexico in the 1980s, and since 1995, he has served as Archbishop of Mexico City, one of the most complex archdioceses in the world. Although he has strong social justice credentials, Rivera Carrera is a conservative on virtually all church matters; for example, he closed a seminary that he said was teaching Marxism under the guise of liberation theology.

Oscar Andrés Rodriguez Maradiaga (Honduras, 12/29/42). Archbishop of Tegucigalpa. Ordained at 27 and an archbishop at 50, Rodriguez Maradiaga is seen as a rising star in the Latin American church. His main handicap could be his youth: The electors may not want to repeat Pope John Paul II's long legacy. As with other Latin American candidates, Rodriguez Maradiaga is a strong advocate of social justice. According to John Allen, he is "one of the world's leading champions of debt relief for developing nations. In June 1999, Rodriguez Maradiaga and rock star Bono, from U2, joined forces at a G8 meeting to present a petition with 17 million signatures demanding debt relief. Rodriguez Maradiaga is also an advocate for women and improved race relations, and generally strives to be a voice of conscience within the process of globalization."

ASIA

Ivan Dias (India, 4/14/36). Archbishop of Bombay (Mumbai). Dias was ordained at 22 and became an archbishop at 60. This is possibly the most globe-trotting of all candidates. Dias rose through the Vatican's diplomatic ranks with postings in Ghana, Togo, Benin, Korea and Albania. He also served in the Holy See's embassies in Scandinavia, Indonesia and Madagascar. He worked in the Secretariat of State as the desk officer for countries in Europe, Africa and Asia, including China and the then-Soviet Union. He speaks a little bit of at least 16 languages.

Dias is thus cosmopolitan and fluent in world affairs. But he is also conservative -- shunning, for example, the theology of religious pluralism so common in India. He takes a conservative line on abortion, has called homosexuality a disease of the soul.

 

Sunitha - UK

 

 


#418 From: "Sunitha " <sunitharodrigus@...>
Date: Wed Apr 6, 2005 12:06 am
Subject: How the next pope will be selected?
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The Indian Catholic, the news web site of the Catholic Bishops' Conference of India, has published a ready reckoner as to what happens.

When the Pope dies, the Camerlengo, or the cardinal administrator of the property and revenues of the Holy See, the government of the Roman Catholic Church under the Pope, verifies the death.

Standing over the deceased, he calls the pontiff by his baptismal name three times. Upon receiving no response, he announces the death and arranges for the Fisherman's ring -- inscribed with the name of the reigning Pope -- and the papal seal to be broken.

Another ring will be made for the newly elected pope.

The Camerlengo then prepares for the Pope's burial and the traditional nine days of mourning. Assisted by three officials elected from the college, he directs the election of the pontiff's successor.

Fifteen to 20 days after the death of the Pope, the Sacred College of Cardinals meets to elect his successor. The cardinals come from every corner of the globe. There are currently 116 voting cardinals.

After a Mass of the Holy Spirit in St Peter's Basilica, the cardinals enter a guarded annexe of the Sistine Chapel for the conclave – the process of electing a new Pope.


Each cardinal swears an oath to protect the secrecy of the election. Breaking the oath carries a penalty of immediate excommunication.

The cardinals are sequestered, literally locked within the walls of the annexe, which is screened for bugging devices.

The next morning, the cardinals attend Mass in the Sistine Chapel, and the electoral session begins.

According to the reforms introduced by Pope Paul VI, only cardinals under the age of 80 may vote. Though in theory any adult male Roman Catholic is a potential candidate for papacy, for centuries only cardinals have been elected Pope.

The election is conducted through secret, written ballots, which are counted by the Camerlengo and his three assistants.

In the past, a Pope needed one more than two-thirds of the votes to be elected.

In 1996, however, Pope John Paul II changed this rule allowing cardinals to select a Pope with absolute majority (half plus one).

Two ballots are taken each morning and two each afternoon until a successful vote is completed. After each voting session, ballots are burned.

If the vote is inconclusive, a chemical substance is added to the paper to produce black smoke. Billowing from the roof of the Vatican Palace, the smoke is a message to the crowds watching in St Peter's Square that the church is still without a Pope.

When the college eventually reaches a decision, each cardinal lowers a purple canopy over his chair, leaving the elected Pope's canopy folded. The final ballots are burned and their white smoke signals a successful election.

The dean of the cardinals asks if the chosen member accepts the papacy.
Upon accepting, the new pontiff is made the bishop of
Rome and is honoured by each of the cardinals.

The dean then steps out onto the balcony of the Vatican, shouting Habemus papam! ("We have a Pope!")

 

 

Sunitha - UK

 


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Date: Wed Apr 6, 2005 6:57 am
Subject: Increase your productivity
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Are you always stressed & burdened in office? If so, follow these tips & get more work done in less time.
1.Increase your productivity
Organize your desk, remove things you don't use everyday, keep high-priority items in plain sight
2.Manage your time well
Set specific deadline when people give you tasks. Keep them on master calendar & post it prominently
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Take their guidance but don't let them take charge of you.
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Take initiatives & communicate your ideas to your superiors. Don't let others tell you what to do.


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Date: Wed Apr 6, 2005 6:16 am
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Hi Francy,

I would like to share some article with the group

1) Article 1 is on Sudha Murthy's struggle.  This story is something what I
liked.
2) Article 2 is on health care which we usually ignore.  This information was
passed on to me during my Yoga training.

If you feel its informative, kindly include it in your next issue.

Eva Pereira
Wartsila India Ltd
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Sudha Murthy, wife of Infosys Chairman Narayanamurthy, talking about her life
and the story of how Infosys was born:

It was in Pune that I met Narayan Murty through my friend Prasanna who is now
the Wipro chief, who was also training in Telco. Most of the books that Prasanna
lent me had Murty's name on them, which meant that I had a preconceived image of
the man. Contrary to expectation, Murty was shy,
bespectacled and an introvert. When he invited us for dinner, I was a bit taken
aback as I thought the young man was making a very fast move. I refused since I
was the only girl in the group. But Murty was relentless and we all decided to
meet for dinner the next day at 7.30 p.m. at Green Fields hotel on the Main
Road, Pune. The next day I went there at 7 o clock since I had to go to the
tailor near the hotel. And what do I see? Mr. Murty waiting in front of the
hotel and it was only seven. Till today, Murty maintains that I had mentioned
(consciously!) that I would be going to the tailor at 7 so that I could meet
him...And I maintain that I did not say any such thing consciously or 
unconsciously because I did not think of Murty as anything other than a  friend
at that stage. We have agreed to disagree on this matter. Soon, we became
friends. Our conversations were filled with Murty's experiences abroad and the
books that he has read. My friends insisted that Murty was trying to impress me
because he was interested in me. I kept denying it till one fine day, after
dinner Murty said " I want to tell you something". I knew this was it. It was
coming. He said, I am 5'4" tall. I come from a lower middle class family. I can
never become rich in my life and I can never give you any riches. You are
beautiful, bright, intelligent and you can get anyone you want. But will you
marry me? I asked Murty to give me some time for an answer. My father didn't
want me to marry a wannabe politician,(a communist at that) who didn't have a
steady job and wanted to build an orphanage... When I went to Hubli I told my
parents about Murty and his proposal. My mother was positive since Murty was
also from Karnataka, seemed intelligent and comes from a good family. But my
father asked: What's his job, his salary, his qualifications etc? Murty was
working as a research assistant and was earning less than me.  He was willing to
go dutch with me on our outings.  My parents agreed to meet Murty in Pune on a
particular day at 10 a. m sharp. Murty did not turn up. How can I trust a man to
take care of my daughter if he cannot keep an appointment, asked my father.  At
12 noon Murty turned up in a bright red shirt! He had gone on work to Bombay,
was stuck in a traffic jam on the ghats, so he hired a taxi (though it was very
expensive for him) to meet his would-be father-in-law. Father was unimpressed.
My father asked him what he wanted to become in life. Murty said he wanted to
become a politician in the communist party and wanted to open an orphanage. My
father gave his verdict. NO. I don't want my daughter to marry somebody who
wants to become a communist and then open an orphanage when he himself didn't
have money to support his family. Ironically, today, I have opened many
orphanages something which Murty wanted to do 25 years ago. By this time I
realized I had developed a liking towards Murty which could only be termed as
love. I wanted to marry Murty because he is an honest man. He proposed to me
highlighting the negatives in his life. I promised my father that I will not
marry Murty without his blessings though at the same time, I cannot marry
anybody else. My father said he would agree if Murty promised to take up a
steady job. But Murty refused saying he will not do things in life because
somebody wanted him to. So, I was caught between the two most important people
in my life. The stalemate continued for three years during which our courtship
took us to every restaurant and cinema hall in Pune. In those days, Murty was
always broke. Moreover, he didn't earn much to manage. Ironically today, he
manages Infosys Technologies Ltd, one of the world's most reputed companies. He
always owed me money. We used to go for dinner and he would say, I don't have
money with me, you pay my share, I will return it to you later. For
three years I maintained a book on Murty's debt to me. No, he never returned the
money and I finally tore it up after my wedding. The amount was a little over
Rs. 4000. During this interim period Murty quit his job as research assistant
and started his own software business. Now, I had to pay his salary too! Towards
the late 70s computers were entering India in a big way. During the fag end of
1977 Murty decided to take up a job as General Manager at Patni Computers in
Bombay. But before he joined the company he wanted to marry me since he was to
go on training to the US after joining. My father gave in as he was happy Murty
had a decent job, now. We where married in Murty's house in Bangalore on
February 10, 1978 with only our two families present. I got My first silk sari.
The wedding expenses came to only Rs. 800(US$ 17) with
Murty and I pooling in Rs. 400 each. I went to the US with Murty after marriage.
Murty encouraged me to see America on my own because I loved travelling. I
toured America for three months on backpack and had interesting experiences
which will remain fresh in my mind forever. Like the time when I was taken into
custody by the New York police because they thought I was an Italian trafficking
drugs in Harlem. Or the time when I spent the night at the bottom of the Grand
Canyon with an old couple. Murty panicked because he couldn't get a response
from my hotel room even at midnight. He thought I was either killed or
kidnapped. In 1981 Murty wanted to start INFOSYS. he had a vision and zero
capital... initially I was very apprehensive about Murty getting into business.
We did not have any business background. Moreover we were living a comfortable
life in Bombay with a regular pay check and I didn't want to rock the boat. But
Murty was passionate about creating good quality software. I decided to support
him. Typical of Murty, he just had a dream and no money. So I gave him Rs.
10,000 which I had saved for a rainy day, without his knowledge and told him,
This is all I have. Take it. I give you three years sabbatical leave. I will
take care of the financial needs of our house. You go and chase your dreams
without any worry. But you have only three years! Murty and his six colleagues
started Infosys in 1981,with enormous interest and hard work.
In 1982 I left Telco and moved to Pune with Murty.  We bought a small house On
loan which also became the Infosys office. I was a
clerk-cum-cook-cum-programmer. I also took up a job as Senior Systems Analyst
with Walchand group of Industries to support the house. In 1983 Infosys got
their first client, MICO, in Bangalore. Murty moved to Bangalore and stayed with
his mother while I went to Hubli to deliver my second child, Rohan. Ten days
after my son was born, Murty left for the US on project work. I saw him only
after a year as I was unable to join Murty in the US because my son had
infantile eczema, an allergy to vaccinations. So for more than a year I did not
step outside our home for fear of my son contracting an infection. It was only
after Rohan got all his vaccinations that I came to Bangalore where we rented a
small house in Jayanagar and rented another house as Infosys headquarters. My
father presented Murty a scooter to commute. I once again became a cook,
programmer, clerk, secretary, office assistant et al.  Nandan Nilekani (MD of
Infosys) and his wife Rohini stayed with us. While Rohini babysat my son, I
wrote programmes for Infosys. There was no car, no phone, just two kids and a
bunch of us working hard, juggling our lives and having fun while Infosys was
taking shape. It was not only me but the wives of other partners too who gave
their unstinted support. We all knew that our men were trying to build something
good. It was like a big joint family, taking care and looking out for one
another. I still remember Sudha Gopalakrishna looking after my daughter Akshata
with all care and love while Kumari Shibulal cooked for all of us. Murty made it
very clear that it would either be me or him working at Infosys. Never the two
of us together... I was involved with Infosys initially. Nandan Nilekani
suggested I should be on the Board but Murty said he did not want a husband and
wife team at Infosys. I was shocked since I had the relevant experience and
technical qualifications. He said, Sudha if you want to work with Infosys, I
will withdraw, happily. I was pained to know that I will not be involved in the
company my husband was building and that I would have to give up a job that I am
qualified to do and love doing. It took me a couple of days to grasp the reason
behind Murty's request. I realised that to make Infosys a success one had to
give one's 100 percent.  One had to be focussed on it alone with no other
distractions. If the two of us had to give 100 percent to Infosys then what
would happen to our home and our children? One of us had to take care of our
home while the other took care of Infosys. I opted to be a homemaker, after all
Infosys was Murty's dream.  It was a big sacrifice but it was one that had to be
made. Even today, Murty says, Sudha, I stepped on your career to make mine. You
are responsible for my success. I might have given up my career for my husband's
sake. But that does not make me a doormat... Many think that I have been made
the sacrificial lamb at Narayan Murty's altar of success. A few women
journalists have even accused me of setting a wrong example by giving up my
dreams to make my husbands a reality. Is'nt freedom about living your life the
way you want it? What is right for one person might be wrong for another. It is
up to the individual to make a choice that is effective in her life.  I feel
that when a woman gives up her right to choose for herself is when she crosses
over from being an individual to a doormat. Murty's dreams encompassed not only
himself but a generation of people.  It was about founding something worthy,
exemplary and honorable. It was about creation and distribution of wealth. His
dreams were grander than my career plans, in all aspects. So, when I had to
choose between Murty's career and mine, I opted for what I thought was a right
choice. We had a home and two little children. Measles, mumps, fractures, PTA
meetings, wants and needs of growing children do not care much for grandiose
dreams. They just needed to be attended to. Somebody had to take care of it all.
Somebody had to stay back to create a home base that would be fertile for
healthy growth, happiness, and more dreams to dream.  I became that somebody
willingly.  I can confidently say that if I had had a dream like Infosys, Murty
would have given me his unstinted support.  The roles would have been reversed.
We are not bound by the archaic rules of marriage.  I cook for him but I don't
wait up to serve dinner like a traditional wife.  So, he has no hassles about
heating up the food and having his dinner.  He does not intrude into my time
especially when I am writing my novels.  He does not interfere in my work at the
Infosys Foundation and I don't interfere with the running of Infosys. I teach
Computer Science to MBA and MCA students at Christ college for a few hours every
week and I earn around Rs. 50,000 a year.  I value this financial independence
greatly though there is no need for me to pursue a teaching career. Murty
respects that.  I travel all over the world without Murty because he hates]
travelling.  We trust each other implicitly. We have another understanding too.
While he earns the money, I spend it, mostly through the charity. Philanthropy
is a profession and an art... The Infosys Foundation was born in 1997 with the
sole objective of uplifting the less-privileged sections of society. In the past
three years we have build hospitals, orphanges, rehabilitation centres, school
buildings, science centres and more than 3500 libraries. Our work is mainly in
the rural areas amongst women and children.  I am one of the trustees and our
activities span six states including Karnataka, Tamil Nadu, Andhra, Orissa,
Chandigarh and Maharashtra.  I travel to around 800 villages constantly. Infosys
Foundation has a minimal staff of three trustees and three office members. We
all work very hard to achieve our goals and that is the reason why Infosys
Foundation has a distinct identity. Every year we donate around Rs. 5-6 crore
(Rs. 50 - 60 million). We run Infosys Foundation the way Murty runs Infosys in a
professional and scientific way. Philanthropy is a profession and an art. It can
be used or misused. We slowly want to increase the donations and we dream of a
time when Infosys Foundation could donate large amounts of money. Every year we
receive more than 10,000 applications for donations. Everyday I receive more
than 120 calls. Amongst these, there are those who genuinely need help and there
are hood winkers too. I receive letters asking me to donate Rs five lakh to
someone because five lakh is, like peanuts to Infosys. Some people write to us
asking for free Infosys shares.  Over the years I have learnt to differentiate
the wheat from the chaff, though I still give a patient hearing to all the
cases. Sometimes I feel I have lost the ability to trust people. I have become
shrewder to avoid being conned. It saddens me to realise that even as a person
is talking to me I try to analyse them: Has he come here for any donation? Why
is he praising my work or enquiring about my health, does he want some money
from me? Eight out of ten times I am right. They do want my money. But I feel
bad for the other two whom I suspected. I think that is the price that I have to
pay for the position that I am in now. The greatest difficulty in having money
is teaching your children the value of it and trying to keep them on a straight
line.... Bringing up children in a moneyed atmosphere is a difficult task. Even
today I think twice if I have to spend Rs10 on an auto when I can walk up to my
house. I cannot expect my children to do the same. They have seen money from the
time they were born. But we can lead by example. When they see Murty wash his
own plate after eating and clean the two toilets in the house everyday they
realise that no work is demeaning irrespective of how rich you are. I dont have
a maid at home because I dont see the need for
one. When children see both parents working hard, living a simple life, most of
the time they tend to follow. This doesn't mean we expect our children to live
an austere life. My children buy what they want and go where they want but they
have to follow certain rules. They will have to show me a bill for whatever they
buy.  My daughter can buy five new outfits but she has to give away five old
ones. My son can go out with his friends for lunch or dinner but if he wants to
go to a five star hotel, we discourage it. Or we accompany him.  So far my
children haven't given me any heartbreak. They are good children. My eldest
daughter is studying abroad, whereas my son is studying in Bangalore. They don't
use their father's name in vain. If asked, they only say that his name is Murty
and that he works for Infosys.  They don't want to be recognised and appreciated
because of their father or me but for themselves. I dont feel guilty about
having money for we have worked hard for it. But I dont feel compfortable
flaunting it.. It is a conscious decision on our part to live a simple, so-
called middle class life. We live in the same Two-bedroom, sparsely furnished
house before INFOSYS became a succedd. Our only extravagance is buying books and
CDs. My house has no lockers for I have no jewels. I wear a stone earring which
I bought in mumbai for Rs100. I don't even wear my mangalsutra until I attend
some family functions or I am with my mother-in-law. I am not fond of jewellery
or saris. Five years ago, I went to Kashi where tradition demands that you give
up something and I gave up shopping. Since then I haven't bought myself a sari
or gone shopping. It is my friends who gift me with saris. Murty bought me a
sari a long time ago. It was not to my taste and I told him to refrain from
buying saris for me in the future.  I am no good at selecting men's clothes
either. It is my daughter who does the shopping for us. I still have the same
sofa at home which my daughter wants to change. However, we have indulged
ourselves with each one having their own music system and computer. I don't
carry a purse and neither does Murty most of the time. I do tell him to keep
some small change with him but he doesn't. I borrow money from my secretary or
my driver if I need cash. They know my habit so they always carry extra cash
with them. But I settle the accounts every evening. Murty and I are very
comfortable with our lifestyle and we dont see the Need to change it now that we
have money. Murty and I are two opposites that complement each other... Murty is
sensitive and romantic in his own way. He always gifts me books addressed to
From Me to You. Or to the person I most admire etc. We both love books. We are
both complete opposites. I am an extrovert and he is an introvert. I love
watching movies and listening to classical music. Murty loves listening to
English classical music.  I go out for movies with my students and secretary
every other week. I am still young at heart. I really enjoyed watching "Kaho Na
Pyaar Hai" and I am a Hrithik Roshan fan. It has been more than 20 years since
Murty and I went for a movie. My daughter once gave us a surprise by booking
tickets for "Titanic". Since I had a prior engagement that day, Murty went for
the movie with his secretary Pandu. I love travelling whereas Murty loves
spending time at
home. Friends come and go with the share prices... Even in my dreams, I did not
expect Infosys to grow like the way it has. I don't think even Murty envisioned
this phenomenal success, at least not in 1981. After Infosys went public in
1993, we became what people would call as rich, moneyed people. I was shocked to
see what was happening to Infosys and to us. Suddenly you see and hear about so
much money. Your name and photo is splashed in the papers. People talk about
you. It was all new to me. Suddenly I have people walking up to me saying, oh we
where such good friends, we had a meal 25 years ago, they claim to have been
present at our wedding(which is an utter life because only my family was present
at my wedding). I dont even know all these people who claim to know Murty and me
so well.. But that doesn't mean I don't have true friends. I do have genuine
friends, a handful, who have been with me for a very long time. My equation with
these people has not changed and vice versa. I am also very close to Narayan
Murty's family, especially my sister-in-law Kamala Murty, a school teacher, who
is more of a dear friend to me. I have discovered that these are the few
relationships and friendships that don't fluctuate depending on the price of
Infosys shares. Have I lost my identity as a woman, in Murty's shadow?... No. I
might be Mrs Narayan Murty. I might be Akshata and Rohan's mother. I might be
the trustee of Infosys Foundation. But I am still
Sudha.. I play different roles like all women. That doesn't mean we don't have
our own identity. Women have that extra quality of adaptability and learn to fit
into different shoes. But we are our own selves still. And we have to exact our
freedom by making the right choices in our lives, dictated by us and not by the
world.

--sudha murthy
  -----------------------------


Don't smoke- Experiment from experts proves that smoking a cigarette after meal
is comparable to smoking 10 cigarettes (chances of cancer is higher).

Don't eat fruits immediately - Immediately eating fruits after meals will cause
stomach to be bloated with air. Therefore take fruit 1-2 hr after meal or 1hr
before meal.

Don't drink tea - Because tea leaves contain a high content of acid. This
substance will cause the Protein content in the food we consume to be hardened
thus difficult to digest.

Don't loosen your belt - Loosening the belt after a meal will easily cause the
intestine to be twisted & blocked.

Don't bathe - Bathing will cause the increase of blood flow to the hands, legs &
body thus the amount of blood around the stomach will therefore decrease.  This
will weaken the digestive system in our stomach.

Don't walk about - People always say that after a meal walk a hundred steps and
you will live till 99. In actual fact this is not true. Walking will cause the
digestive system to be unable to absorb the nutrition from the food we intake.

Don't sleep immediately - The food we intake will not be able to digest
properly. Thus will lead to gastric & infection in our intestine.

#421 From: "Francy" <rajfrancis2004@...>
Date: Wed Apr 6, 2005 8:22 am
Subject: A few things to share with you.
rajfrancis2004
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Dear Friends,
 
This is just to keep you all informed on the following issues.
 
We thank each one of you for your wholehearted co operation and help which you have been doing to us by the way of suggestion , introduction of members, articles directly or indirectly. We have been having a wonderful response since the last few days in Konkani Friends.
 
I had received email ID's from Mr.Herbert Lobo of Ullal,  Mr. Stephen Nazareth of USA, Ms. Shanthi Mendonca - Kuwait, Benjamin Miranda - Belman, Oswald Fernandes - UAE, Dr. Almedia - Bangalore which are approximately around 287. We thank you for help and I have sent them the invitations yesterday. Any member joining from these will be added to your respective account. God bless you all in a special way.
 
New members have joined referring the name of the existing members, God bless them too in a special way. I will be sending the exact report on next Saturday.
A few members have joined without mentioning the name. I am not sure if they have joined through website or have skipped their mind to mention about you. However please do discuss with your friends and let me know so that you don't miss on the count.
 
The response on filling in the application form is found low. Hence I am unable to update this in our database accordingly. Members who have joined and have not submitted the forms please do submit it or atleast send me an email stating your name, your current residence, and your native in Mangalore. This atleast will help us to update the records accordingly.
 
I had requested all of you to send me your opinion as to the group and I presume this has skipped your attention. I have received only from 8 people. Please do send it to me. This will give an idea for the new members to have an idea about the group. Your co operation is most needed in this regard.
 
Thank you very much for your time in reading this
 
Mog asundhi
 
Francy
 
 

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