Hi there

Re face reading: I dont think we Aspies realize that we miss out on social
cues and gestures which others pick up. We think we are picking up everything
but we arent. That is why we usually dont have many friends - because we get it
wrong. We dont interpret the social cues even though we think we can. I also
believe that many AS people develop other senses such as a 6th sense. They do
this in order to compensate a little for the lack of ability to pick up those
social cues and gestures. es we know what a smile is and when someone is
blatantly obviously angry. But I dont know when people are becoming angry until
they are angry. Neuro-typical people can tell when people are becoming angry.
I cant tell until it is too late in some instances.
Re 6th sense - I am quite psychic and can immediately work out what a person
is like and am never ever wrong. Can anyone else do this????
We all are capable of being sympathetic to people's feelings. Just because we
have AS doesnt mean we cant be sympathetic and understanding. We just do it
differently apparently.
I muck up what I'm going to say all the time when in a social situation so I
avoid a lot of social situations.
Have you read lots of books on AS? I suggest you get a copy of Tony Attwood's
book on Asperger Syndrome. Most libraries have a copy. It will explain things
rather well.

You are not alone. At least we have computers to communicate to each other
with.

Lisa Adams

tim19992 <tim19992@...> wrote:
But I still don't understand one thing, that you might explain to me.
How can you don't understand nonverbal comunication. I simply don't
get it. What you don't know what smile is, or how an angry mans face
looks like. Or am I interpretating it too literaly. Could anyone
explain me this thing in details. I personaly haven't noticed any
notices of this symptom in my behaviour. Sometimes I even think that
I'm more understanding than most people. I mean, I can simply look at
a human face and understand how is he feeling or maybe what he's
thinking. And that is the biggest problem. In Asperger's description
this problem is probably the most important. I do understand people,
they don't have to say things literaly for me to understand what they
want to say. And I'm even better at understanding what people don't
want to say, what maybe they want to hide. All those clues from voice
temper, body languadge really gives up everything and I don't
understand how on Earth it is possible not to understand them. Yes, I
don'r reply to them, maybe becouse I don't want to. I don't really
like people. I really don't. When I have to talk with people I dont
know what to say, I'm afraid I will say something really stupid (and i
often do) and people often misunderstand think that I said something I
didn't want to say. Thats why i like being alone. You don't have to
pretend, you can be yourself. I have bad social skils, but that
doesn't mean that I don't understand nonverbal comunication. I think I
better understand what people want to say, than they really say. But
thats just my opinion and I might be wrong.
Can anyone write what that description really means, and how in youre
case this disability is effecting your life.




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