--- In aspiesdugout@..., Lisa Adams
<finddavidandlisa@y...> wrote:
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> Hello
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> I've been following this thread on my email and I'd like to say
that I am a 43 year old successful company director, mother, AS
diagnosed 3 years ago, with 2 sons one of whom is dyspraxic/AS. I am
a very good parent, even though life can be very difficult. I dont
get any help but use sheer guts and determination. I am a respected
member of society, I have my children at top private schools, I know
how to earn a lot of money and pay my taxes and stay within the law.
> I was quite affronted when someone mentioned that AS people
arent normal (I believe that I have a superior brain to those who
are "normal" ) and cant be good parents. For goodness sake, get a
life. If you say "poor me, I'm afflicted" then how can you expect to
get anywhere in life. Does a one legged person never walk anywhere
just because they are one legged. No, they jolly well make the most
of things, get a prosthesis, and off they go. In my opinion, people
with AS can do anything they set their mind to do. It's just a
matter of attitude. Yes, we might need more time alone after all the
effort, but dont ever say that AS people cant be normal members of
society or cant be good parents. That's bunkum cos I'm living proof
of it.
> Age 43, live in a grand house in the country which I have worked
for and paid for, company director, been on Tv for my achievements
(before AS was even diagnosed) and have a high IQ and a successful
life. Most people envy me. Simon Baron Cohen diagnosed me, so I
definitely have AS, was described as a classic textbook case. I just
get on with life.
> tim19992 <tim19992@y...> wrote:
> > --- In aspiesdugout@..., "Jonners"
<jonmartin@b...> wrote:
> > >
> >

Lisa

I'm glad you have replied to this in such a strong and positive way.
The reason my dad was a "nightmare" when I was a child was because he
was married to a none AS wife who had no interest in dad other than
as a meal ticket, which I'm sorry to say is why a lot of women
married their husbands at the time and social area where we lived (
I've probably upset someone else here now). She always wanted ( and
still tries) to "change" dad, and it doesn't matter how often I tell
her, that neither she nor any one else could or should try to change
him, as he is lovely, it never seems to go in.

Could I ask how many people with AS like being called "Aspies"? It
may be right for some people, but I think I would be rather upset if
someone used that label on my dad, me or my daughter. If I do have
AS myself, then I am proud of it, and, as I was saying to dad today,
it means that we can go places our none AS contempories cannot.

I'm sorry if I appeared to be negative about AS, Lisa, but I have
seen the people I love dearly struggle in life as a result.

I don't wish to pry, Lisa, but my daughter is getting bullied very
badly at her Grammar school, but the teachers don't seem to
understand the first thing about helping her, even with a 20 hour
statement. Have you any advice you could give her? I am extremely
proud of her achievements so far.

I will show Laura your posting as I think it will help her as she is
very depressed at the moment.


Liz
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