Hi gnr,
I have not had an official diagnosis but am considering asking for one. I am
married and have 2 children with ASD, and a third with dyslexia. My father was a
typical aspie, and was accepted to Cambridge University to study maths, aged 16.
Sadly, this talent has not passed to me!!
Anyway, my point is that you can be a relatively normal person on the outside,
perhaps not to your direct family though, and still be an aspie.As you are
aware, in many ways we function very well in the normal world, especially at
technical jobs in the workplace, it is however with people that the problems
arise. My husband says I lack all common sense, and yet somehow managed to
attain good college grades.I have no idea what to say to someone who is upset or
in a bad mood. I cannot be around people for too long without craving quiet
space to calm my nerves and I do not seem able to maintain adequate levels of
self esteem without being drugged up on anti depressants and anti anxiety
pills.This is because I am so acutely aware of my failings as a wife, sister,
daughter and friend to those close to me.I just don't get it, whatever it is.
So, there are a lot of us out here and it is a comforting thought to know you
are not alone in this often alien world. I do believe though that we possess
many qualities and good points that our NT pals do not have in abundance. We are
kind to people,animals and children. We rarely intentionally hurt anyone.We are
loyal and do not betray our loved ones or say hurtful things about them to
others. We have a purity and innocence of thought, a bit like a child.We are
great with detail, often exhibiting perfectionist traits.We are not generally
lazy, we work hard and do not skive off.We do not take sick days unless really
quite ill.We are honest with money and are trustworthy when given possessions to
look after etc.We ask for very little emotionally from people, yet still love
them dearly, albeit in a non demonstrative way. We say what we mean and do not
make false promises.We have a lot to teach others, if only they would stop
thinking how odd we all are to them.
Hope this helps a bit,
LOL Sarah.
rain <the_wodon@...> wrote:HI there,

You do make some very valid points.
Aspergers syndrome is often referred to as "Autistic spectrum
disorder" (or ASD) and i think this is a better description.
There are no hard and fast rules about Aspergers syndrome, I fall
into many of the typical symptoms but some i do not which caused me
major confusion to begin with.
diagnosis is not a necesary thing, in many cases it helps a lot but I
know several peopel who have had no oficcial diagnosis but have been
able to accept themselves much more easily just by diagnosing
themselves.
It is not always necessary (or possible) for people to go to a
special school, I live in the UK and was given little extra help at
school despite my "diagnosis". I was given extra lessons as I was
more able at scientific subjects but generally was simply
considered "a bit odd" by teachers and students alike.
Workwise I have not found it necessary to tell employers of ASD, I
work in IT and it does have the advantage that people expect
the "geeks" to be a bit strange anyway, being analytical and
introverted are assets in what I do!
knowing I was AS and not a total freak helped me accept who I was
much more but it doesnt change who I am.

I hope this helps a bit, if you want any more info then drop me a
line on the_wodon@...

TTFN
Paul

btw im 23, m, live in london and went to a state school

--- In aspiesdugout@y..., "gnrboo" <gaynorbarrett@h...> wrote:
> Hello, I hope it is OK for me to be on this site because I don't
have
> any diagnosis (except depression but that is not relevant I know)
but
> I am supposed to go to a psychologist at beginning february. I
have
> done this test which you linked to and got 41 but as you say it is
> not accurately organised (and I also think they have used a
standard
> answer format which the answers are sometimes not relevant to the
> questions).
> Can anyone tell me the following:
> If I did have asperger syndrome, would I not have had to go to a
> special school (which I didn't- school was not a problem for me
> except the other students who were violent and disruptive)?
> Is there something else you can have like asperger but without
> language problems? I always thought that asperger meant that if
you
> said 'whats up?' someone would look at the sky or whatever kind of
> literal interpretation- psychiatrist says that no, but I
have 'black
> and white' ideas (this is the only kind which makes sense to me
> because surely something either is or isn't???) and antisocial
(asked
> about antisocial personality disorder but he says that is something
> else which means violent and disruptive (seems lilke most people to
> me)). It seems to me that the problems which I have are not
serious
> enough to be aspergers because I did work with some children with
> autism and they were very much more unaware of other people than me
> so I don;t know if it is unfair for me to use this name for my
> problems although some of them, actually were more able than me and
> played tricks on me (e.g. DId you borrow Mrs X broomstick? Well, I
> went to look for the broomstick in case I got in trouble for
loosing
> it but it turned out they just meant to say the teacher was a
> witch... hahaha, am I stupid or what?)
> DOes anyone know of any employers who specifically like people with
> asperger syndrome or any cooperatives of asperger/autistic people
to
> work together? I have employment problems that I can't ever make
my
> bosses like me and so I get sacked...
> Does anyone know what kind of effect this will have on my life if
> they say either yes or no that I have it or not?
> Can you tell me, anyone here with asperger syndrome, are you the
same
> as me or not? I would like to know people who are the same as me
but
> I don't know if that would be anyone here, I don't have any amazing
> abilities like people with asperger are supposed to and I can find
my
> way about on foot (but not car), use shops etc but I just can't
work
> out how people want me to behave at each particular situation.
>
> Thankyou for your help in this matter.
> gnr


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