Its a while since you wrote. Hope things have sorted out and your
friend is in a safer state of mind about herself and you're all ok.
My daughter has many friends she calls on like yourself. I'm pleased
you could see your friend had a problem, I wish it was easier to help.
I've only recently worked out Emma's problem, she's 24 now. She
jumped out of the car once, flung a glass down the stairsthat
shattered over her dad, bit and injured many who care about her and
got arrested several times. Hopefully we'll get help in the newyear.
Heather



--- In bpdcarers@..., "kait.boorn" <kait1989@...> wrote:
>
> Hi everyone,
> My best friends going through a rough time at the moment, actually
it
> has been building up for a while now, and I think it may be BDP or
> something similar at least. I've read the posts on here and i find
> that my other best friend and I seem to observe a lot of the same
> things you do. Some things we notice are:
>
> - Anger, panic attacks when we don't reply to her text messages or
> answer her calls (example - last week my other besty had her phone
on
> silent and did not realise possibleBDP was calling her. When she
> checked her phone, she had 10 missed calls, all within 2 minutes of
> each other. We found potentialBDP self-harming because she thought
my
> besty had ditched her)
> - Self harming, binge drinking and impulse spending
> - She always has to compare herself to us in a conversation - she
is
> always either better or worse off than us, which often leads to
> tension. I have experimented with talking about some of the most
> random conversational topics, and she does it every single time.
> - forces opinions onto us, and gets angry if we voice our own
> - sudden, unpredictable mood swings which go from one extreme to
the
> other and with bizarre triggers
> - eg the other day we were discussing moving to a house next year.
I
> was all for it and she wasn't. I tried to explain my reasons and
she
> suddenly flipped out because I was "wrong" and she was "right"
> - dependance on us - she is always asking us to do simple tasks for
> her that she is more than capable of doing herself
> - often believes that the universe hates her, or is against her
> - often rings up asking what we are doing, or turns up at our rooms
> to see what we are doing at that time
> - has joked around about suicide, and once actually simulated
hanging
> herself with a belt tied to her wardrobe doorhandle, and said
> something along the lines of "if i step off my chair, ill die" as
if
> it were a joke. that particular event is burned into my brain as it
> scared me witless.
>
> I looked at the website www.nimh.nih.gov/publications/borderline-
> personality-disorder.shtml and when I read about the symptoms of
BPD
> I felt a shiver go down my spine because it all rang true.
>
> She has seen a psychologist twice so far, but is only seeking help
> because she knows she'll lose us as friends - and thinks we will
hate
> her - if she doesn't go see the psych.
>
> I am feeling somewhat lost, because she doesn't have a definite
> diagnosis yet, as well as that I really don't know what to do
> anymore. I dread having a conversation with her, because I know it
> would only end with her suddenly becoming angry or depressed and
she
> would say something that offends me.
>
> Kait
>