When someone goes veggie for the wrong reasons (for someone else) it
dosnt come from the heart. No matter how they try at the end of the
day they know its the wrong reasons for making those choices.

I lived with my (ex) partner for 14 years, he was a meat eater. As
it was him that moved in with me i laid down the law, no meat in my
home. He was fine with that at first, then he started bringing in
tins of tuna for work promising he would keep it wrapped and away
from my food, the smell just made me feel so ill, it caused
disagreements between us. I didnt care what he did out of the home
but told him straight he dosnt bring meat into my home end of
story. He would eat meat if we ate out together, that became an
issue when we had the children together, they started asking
questions, why does daddy eat animals. My daughter got very upset
and my son decided he wanted to eat meat. Thankfuly it was just a
phase and he wont touch it now (hes 12) the same rule applied to him
though, he wasnt allowed to bring it into the house.

There dad and i have been apart for almost 2 years now. Funny thing
is hes now dating another veggie lady.

Still a relationship between a meat eater and veggie will always
have slight conflict. We cannot force others to go veggie, they
will just rebel even more and arguments will start. Im not saying
we can only date our own kind but we have to compromise. Could you
do what my ex and i used to do, no meat in the home but he can have
it outside of the home environment? or would that be too difficult
for you? I do know what its like. How do your children feel about
him eating meat?

Hope everything works out ok for you both.

Good luck

T

--- In cardiff-vale-vegetarians@..., "nenastar2000"
<nenastar@...> wrote:
>
> Hi all,
>
> I'm looking for some advice and I hope someone from here can help
me.
> My partner and I started dating February 2007 and our relationship
has
> gone from strength to strength. So much so that we're due to marry
> this October.
>
> When I met him he was a meat eater. However, when we went out for
> dates he would only order from the veggie menu and would refuse to
eat
> meat in front of me. As time went by, he decided to give up meat
> completely and join my children and I in vegetarianism.
> All has been well; he moved in with us last August and he's always
> been been happy with what I cooked.
>
> About two or three weeks ago he told me that he was craving meat
and
> that he wanted to start eating it again. I was totally gutted.
> When I gave him the reasons I (and most other veggies) were
veggies,
> it didn't matter to him. I told him about the way animals were
> slaughtered, how meat farming is taking up land that could grow
crops
> that would feed starving people in developing countries etc etc,
but
> it didn't faze him.
> I asked him why he'd bothered to become a veggie in the first place
> and he said he did it for me. I'd not known this, I thought he
wanted
> to do it for himself and told him at the beginning that its
something
> he should do for himself only.
>
> He's said that he will never eat meat in front of the kids and I
and
> he won't cook it in the house, but he will eat meat again.
>
> Now, I know it's his choice and his right to put into his body
what he
> choses, but it just doesn't sit right with me. I can't help but
feel
> sick by the thought of him eating meat. It saddens me so much.
Whether
> he does it in private or in my face, I still know he's doing it.
>
> Sorry, this is getting long.
> I was just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and
if
> they have any advice to overcome this. I'm a 2nd generation veggie
> bringing up 3rd generation veggies.
> When he told me that he ate a chicken curry the other night I just
> felt so sad for those chickens who no doubt would have suffered to
be
> on his plate.
>
> Any words of wisdom gratefully received.
> Thank you,
> Nena.
>