Hello everyone again :-)

Thanks Ingrid for your reply. Your husband's response is quite
normal. Most partners etc are at some point unsure of how to respond
to the illness as it to some extent makes them feel impotent. In
reality there are two responses I've found. One where our partner
adopts the "ostrich" approach, i.e. can't cope won't cope and if
avoided long enough the problems may disappear. The other approach
involves attempting to overcompensate, by doing too much or becoming
very sensitive to our moods shifts and having their own moods being
varied as a result.

I guess in my experience, I've food that constant open communication
with your partner helps. We have developed our own cues and signs to
help us. Often if I'm having a bad time, all I want to do is
disappear within myself for that period. However my wife has
encouraged me to now be open about this and now I can say to
her "I'm having a crap time." This prevents both of us becoming
super sensitive which is often the biggest problem.

On a different note, I'm off to see Superman tonight "sad old fart I
know :-) "

I think I might for a time forget my vulnerabilities and be
invincible...if only for 90 minutes :-)

If anyone's interested, I'll send a picture of me in my tights (not
a pleasant sight :)

Have a good day

N