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#2071 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Tue Nov 24, 2009 2:56 pm
Subject: Re: Re: Privacy 		sophis_lady
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ian your email address didnt work, was werid..have u got another one?
 
thanks glenn, am ok, just in shock.

--- On Mon, 23/11/09, glenn.yem1 <glenn.yem1@...> wrote:

From: glenn.yem1 <glenn.yem1@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Re: Privacy
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Monday, 23 November, 2009, 18:26

 
Claire, take care of yourself first!!

Not to lighten the severity of how you feel, but I think we dysthymic types are all subject to paranoia to some degree. So the problem is not whether or not you are paranoid, but there is nobobdy to say it's not!!
Humor.

I feel safe here though. Yup. So I will wait here for you Claire.

--- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, claire king <sophis_lady@ ...> wrote:
>
> i dont feel comfortable posting openly anymore guys sorry. i cant think before each word, its hard. i cant be myself so i think i'l stay quiet for a bit.
>
> --- On Mon, 23/11/09, glenn.yem1 <glenn.yem1@ ...> wrote:
>
>
> From: glenn.yem1 <glenn.yem1@ ...>
> Subject: [dysthymia] Re: Privacy
> To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> Date: Monday, 23 November, 2009, 13:08
>
>
>  
>
>
>
> FYI if my wife found this I would be dead meat....I like the privacy!!
>
> --- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, lesleykemp@ .. wrote:
> >
> > I would prefer this to be a private group. I found this group after
> > initial research led me to the (I believe Ian's) website:
> >
> > http://www.dysthymi a.org.uk/ index.html
> >
> > However, I AM posting and will continue to do so, whatever the end decision
> > is.
> >
> > Sending you all smiles. Les :)
> >
>



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#2070 From: "uassfjowlcge" <uassfjowlcge@...>
Date: Mon Nov 23, 2009 6:54 pm
Subject: Human Brain Memory 		uassfjowlcge
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Human brain memory is an amazing web that allows us the opportunity to sense
information, filter it out, or pay attention to and then retain it in our
long-term memory where it can be recalled later. It is an impressive factory of
brain functions that work together to form this memory machine.
The process begins with sensory memory. We are all constantly bombarded with
sights, sounds, smells and textures. Our minds have to have a process to take in
all of that data around us and filter out what we don't need from what we do
need. In order for memories to move form the sensory memory to the short-term
(or working) memory, you need to pay attention to the stimuli presented.
Short-term memory is the next phase in this process. This is a temporary holding
place for information you are currently working with. Short-term memory has a
limited capacity for information and it does not retain information for an
extended period of time (usually about a minute). In order for a human brain
memory to move to the next level of long-term memory, you need to concentrate
and focus on the information.
The next process, long-term memory, is our long-term storage of memories we have
acquired. This is like storing a document on your hard drive so that you can
retrieve it later. You have to have concentrated on the information for it to be
stored in this part of your memory. Some long-term memories are easier to
retrieve than others. Some memories that you use on a regular basis (like the
name of your boss) or that you have a strong emotional connection to can be more
vivid. Other memories that are not as strong may require prompting before memory
recall happens.
The human brain memory process relies on many different steps to be an effective
system. Cognitive impairment, difficulties with attention span, fatigue, or
stress are just some of the many factors that can negatively influence this
process. Memory takes brain power, so make sure that you take care of yourself
so that your brain can take care of you!

Using Subliminal Messages to improve your Health, Self-Esteem -
http://mindzoom.key.to/

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#2069 From: "glenn.yem1" <glenn.yem1@...>
Date: Mon Nov 23, 2009 6:26 pm
Subject: Re: Privacy 		glenn.yem1
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Claire, take care of yourself first!!

Not to lighten the severity of how you feel, but I think we dysthymic types are
all subject to paranoia to some degree. So the problem is not whether or not you
are paranoid, but there is nobobdy to say it's not!!
Humor.

I feel safe here though. Yup. So I will wait here for you Claire.

--- In dysthymia@..., claire king <sophis_lady@...> wrote:
>
> i dont feel comfortable posting openly anymore guys sorry. i cant think before
each word, its hard. i cant be myself so i think i'l stay quiet for a bit.
>
> --- On Mon, 23/11/09, glenn.yem1 <glenn.yem1@...> wrote:
>
>
> From: glenn.yem1 <glenn.yem1@...>
> Subject: [dysthymia] Re: Privacy
> To: dysthymia@...
> Date: Monday, 23 November, 2009, 13:08
>
>
>  
>
>
>
> FYI if my wife found this I would be dead meat....I like the privacy!!
>
> --- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, lesleykemp@ .. wrote:
> >
> > I would prefer this to be a private group. I found this group after
> > initial research led me to the (I believe Ian's) website:
> >
> > http://www.dysthymi a.org.uk/ index.html
> >
> > However, I AM posting and will continue to do so, whatever the end decision
> > is.
> >
> > Sending you all smiles. Les :)
> >
>

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#2068 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Mon Nov 23, 2009 4:28 pm
Subject: Re: Re:social networking sites used against people 		sophis_lady
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thanks, yeah that info sounds about right.
 
my partner is coming with me but prob not in the room unless i need him to. 


--- On Mon, 23/11/09, HeatherW <h.walker07@...> wrote:

From: HeatherW <h.walker07@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Re:social networking sites used against people
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Monday, 23 November, 2009, 12:56

 
Claire,

Sorry I didn't mean to worry you, my experiances were with DLA not icb. is this what you are going for? http://www.mentalhe althshop. org/products/ rethink_publicat ions/personal_ capability. html are you able to get anyone to go with you? I had an appointment last week and I was so useless at rememberinbg the bad times, my husband came and he was able to tell them what I was really like!
Take care
Heather
--- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, claire king <sophis_lady@ ...> wrote:
>
> its for icb, no doctor coming round no, gotta get to the nearest centre or whatever, not sure yet.
>  
> i really dont want to have to go through courts and stuff and it is really out of order that people have to like with legs amputated and stuff.. and really worried now.
>
> --- On Sun, 22/11/09, HeatherW <h.walker07@ ...> wrote:
>
>
> From: HeatherW <h.walker07@ ...>
> Subject: [dysthymia] Re:social networking sites used against people
> To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 12:21
>
>
>  
>
>
>
> Claire,
> about the medical exam is it a doctor coming round? I had one when I originally started getting DLA. I went on it because of I have neurofibromatosis type 2, nothing I can prove by seeing a doctor, I think they see you when it's something they're not used to. If you're benefits get cut, appeal, I've had to a couple of times, I don't think it's unusual, I know of someone having to to go to court to prove they couldn't walk, they'd had a leg amputated!!
> It might be worth looking at what they assess http://www.disabili tyalliance. org/f2.htm and heres some advice from rethink http://www.mentalhe althshop. org/products/ rethink_publicat ions/disability_ living_al. html (you can download it at the right)
> Are you able to have someone with you?
> Good luck with it
> Heather
>
> --- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, claire king <sophis_lady@ ...> wrote:
> >
> > http://uk.news. yahoo.com/ 16/20091121/ ttc-insurers- using-facebook- to-investiga- 6315470.html
> >  
> > this is what i thought about last week and then thought nah the government cant check facebook for things but in usa it seems they can and prob uk as i found this today!!
> >  
> > i really think its out of order to check out potential employees this way or cut benefits etc. i wouldnt want an employer seeing wot i wear on fri nights. i keep social and work life seperate where i can cause it causes problems and has done in the past.
> >  
> >  
> > i think its really out of order someones benefits were cut because she had depression but looked happy in her pictures!! i have pictures of me looking 'happy' on news years eve last year, but i had just been crying after a horrific argument with my stepdad and it took alot for me to go out at all, you have to smile for a picture!! photos dont mean fuck all and im outraged! i knew facebook was another government stalking tool, i feel invaded and like im not free to be myself in this world.
> >  
> > am really upset today and feel like my future is looking bleak as iv also got a medical exam coming up even though i didnt think i would have to have one. i dont understand the point of a physical examination for mental health probs. has anyone else been through this?
> > i have a bad feeling i will get my benefits cut, my mum recently did. i dont know wot i will do without the support. i was starting to get somewhere, doing home course gcse german and building up my own business slowly-not getting enough money from it.
> > i might as well forget all that though if i get benefits cuts and go back into retail get bullied and have another nervous breakdown.
> >  
> > what is the point. really worried. i've been having a bad feeling for about a week of what is it gonna be next? a waiting feeling, of impending enevitable doom. soz to be negative
> >
> > --- On Sat, 21/11/09, carol.norfolk@ ... <carol.norfolk@ ...> wrote:
> >
> >
> > From: carol.norfolk@ ... <carol.norfolk@ ...>
> > Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
> > To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> > Date: Saturday, 21 November, 2009, 14:13
> >
> >
> >  
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Well that's 3 who could probably manage Milton Keynes - anyone else?
> >
> >  
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > From: Tim P <thehermitoftillywh i m@googlemail. com>
> > To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> > Sent: Saturday, 21 November, 2009 0:02:46
> > Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
> >
> >  
> >
> > My parents have just moved to Banbury area, south Northants... !
> >
> > Tim
> >
> >
> > 2009/11/20 <lesleykemp@ aol. com>
> >
> >
> >  
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Can't make it to London but if you're ever in the Milton Keynes area, let me know!  :)  Is anyone else near me say Bucks, Beds, Northants way?
> >
>



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#2067 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Mon Nov 23, 2009 4:29 pm
Subject: Re: Re: Privacy 		sophis_lady
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i dont feel comfortable posting openly anymore guys sorry. i cant think before each word, its hard. i cant be myself so i think i'l stay quiet for a bit.

--- On Mon, 23/11/09, glenn.yem1 <glenn.yem1@...> wrote:

From: glenn.yem1 <glenn.yem1@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Re: Privacy
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Monday, 23 November, 2009, 13:08

 
FYI if my wife found this I would be dead meat....I like the privacy!!

--- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, lesleykemp@. .. wrote:
>
> I would prefer this to be a private group. I found this group after
> initial research led me to the (I believe Ian's) website:
>
> http://www.dysthymi a.org.uk/ index.html
>
> However, I AM posting and will continue to do so, whatever the end decision
> is.
>
> Sending you all smiles. Les :)
>



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#2066 From: "glenn.yem1" <glenn.yem1@...>
Date: Mon Nov 23, 2009 1:08 pm
Subject: Re: Privacy 		glenn.yem1
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FYI if my wife found this I would be dead meat....I like the privacy!!

--- In dysthymia@..., lesleykemp@... wrote:
>
> I would prefer this to be a private group.  I found this group  after
> initial research led me to the (I believe Ian's)  website:
>
> http://www.dysthymia.org.uk/index.html
>
> However, I AM posting and will continue to do so, whatever the end decision
>  is.
>
> Sending you all smiles.  Les :)
>

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#2065 From: "HeatherW" <h.walker07@...>
Date: Mon Nov 23, 2009 12:56 pm
Subject: Re:social networking sites used against people 		heather_dear...
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Claire,

Sorry I didn't mean to worry you, my experiances were with DLA not icb. is this
what you are going for?
http://www.mentalhealthshop.org/products/rethink_publications/personal_capabilit\
y.html are you able to get anyone to go with you? I had an appointment last week
and I was so useless at rememberinbg the bad times, my husband came and he was
able to tell them what I was really like!
Take care
Heather
--- In dysthymia@..., claire king <sophis_lady@...> wrote:
>
> its for icb, no doctor coming round no, gotta get to the nearest centre or
whatever, not sure yet.
>  
> i really dont want to have to go through courts and stuff and it is really out
of order that people have to like with legs amputated and stuff.. and really
worried now.
>
> --- On Sun, 22/11/09, HeatherW <h.walker07@...> wrote:
>
>
> From: HeatherW <h.walker07@...>
> Subject: [dysthymia] Re:social networking sites used against people
> To: dysthymia@...
> Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 12:21
>
>
>  
>
>
>
> Claire,
> about the medical exam is it a doctor coming round? I had one when I
originally started getting DLA. I went on it because of I have neurofibromatosis
type 2, nothing I can prove by seeing a doctor, I think they see you when it's
something they're not used to. If you're benefits get cut, appeal, I've had to a
couple of times, I don't think it's unusual, I know of someone having to to go
to court to prove they couldn't walk, they'd had a leg amputated!!
> It might be worth looking at what they assess http://www.disabili tyalliance.
org/f2.htm and heres some advice from rethink http://www.mentalhe althshop.
org/products/ rethink_publicat ions/disability_ living_al. html (you can
download it at the right)
> Are you able to have someone with you?
> Good luck with it
> Heather
>
> --- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, claire king <sophis_lady@ ...> wrote:
> >
> > http://uk.news. yahoo.com/ 16/20091121/ ttc-insurers- using-facebook-
to-investiga- 6315470.html
> >  
> > this is what i thought about last week and then thought nah the government
cant check facebook for things but in usa it seems they can and prob uk as i
found this today!!
> >  
> > i really think its out of order to check out potential employees this way or
cut benefits etc. i wouldnt want an employer seeing wot i wear on fri nights. i
keep social and work life seperate where i can cause it causes problems and has
done in the past.
> >  
> >  
> > i think its really out of order someones benefits were cut because she had
depression but looked happy in her pictures!! i have pictures of me looking
'happy' on news years eve last year, but i had just been crying after a horrific
argument with my stepdad and it took alot for me to go out at all, you have to
smile for a picture!! photos dont mean fuck all and im outraged! i knew facebook
was another government stalking tool, i feel invaded and like im not free to be
myself in this world.
> >  
> > am really upset today and feel like my future is looking bleak as iv also
got a medical exam coming up even though i didnt think i would have to have one.
i dont understand the point of a physical examination for mental health probs.
has anyone else been through this?
> > i have a bad feeling i will get my benefits cut, my mum recently did. i dont
know wot i will do without the support. i was starting to get somewhere, doing
home course gcse german and building up my own business slowly-not getting
enough money from it.
> > i might as well forget all that though if i get benefits cuts and go back
into retail get bullied and have another nervous breakdown.
> >  
> > what is the point. really worried. i've been having a bad feeling for about
a week of what is it gonna be next? a waiting feeling, of impending enevitable
doom. soz to be negative
> >
> > --- On Sat, 21/11/09, carol.norfolk@ ... <carol.norfolk@ ...> wrote:
> >
> >
> > From: carol.norfolk@ ... <carol.norfolk@ ...>
> > Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
> > To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> > Date: Saturday, 21 November, 2009, 14:13
> >
> >
> >  
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Well that's 3 who could probably manage Milton Keynes - anyone else?
> >
> >  
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > From: Tim P <thehermitoftillywh i m@googlemail. com>
> > To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> > Sent: Saturday, 21 November, 2009 0:02:46
> > Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
> >
> >  
> >
> > My parents have just moved to Banbury area, south Northants... !
> >
> > Tim
> >
> >
> > 2009/11/20 <lesleykemp@ aol. com>
> >
> >
> >  
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Can't make it to London but if you're ever in the Milton Keynes area, let me
know!  :)  Is anyone else near me say Bucks, Beds, Northants way?
> >
>

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#2064 From: lesleykemp@...
Date: Mon Nov 23, 2009 7:27 am
Subject: Re: Privacy 		tapwhizz
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I would prefer this to be a private group.  I found this group after initial research led me to the (I believe Ian's) website:
 
http://www.dysthymia.org.uk/index.html
 
However, I AM posting and will continue to do so, whatever the end decision is.
 
Sending you all smiles.  Les :)

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#2063 From: lesleykemp@...
Date: Mon Nov 23, 2009 7:17 am
Subject: Re: social networking sites used against people 		tapwhizz
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Hi Claire - To answer your question, I am unable to change the settings, I believe only the list owner or a moderator (if the list owner has given the moderator permissions) can do this.
 
All good wishes, Les.  :)

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#2062 From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...>
Date: Mon Nov 23, 2009 12:07 am
Subject: Re: Privacy 		starryskyes05
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As far as I know, making the group private means only members can read the posts. You can still search and find the group and join.
 












“Only a life lived for others is worth living.”  ~ Albert Einstein
















From: HeatherW <h.walker07@...>
To: dysthymia@...
Sent: Sun, November 22, 2009 4:19:31 PM
Subject: [dysthymia] Moderator Re: Privacy

 

Hi,

Although it is worrying about what you can google these days and I don't think making the group 'private' would help that much, I found this group through google so I would hope that others could do so as well.
Heather
--- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, "Ian W" <ianw4health@ ...> wrote:
>
> Hi Claire
>
> I'm still here! I don't have seemed to have spoken to you for some time. I keep a check on the group most days and have posted where I have felt apprpriarate. The group is moving along well, so as long as there is no problems there is no need to fix it. If you follow what I mean.
>
> From what I am picking up some feel they want to make the posts private? I acually tried this a while back as one of 2 where of the mind that it should be private, however during that time there was no posts ............
>
> I can make the posts private if everybody is happy with this. However there is a second issue, that is posts can be read by anyone by simply joining, unless we go the whole way and moderate those joining the group.
>
> It still does no stop someone joining who a member may know (neighbour etc).
>
> The main reason I have kept the post public is that although Dysthymia is a little better known than when the group started, it is still one of those illnesses that is not well known, one of the worst things with an illness like this is that you can feel isolated, not knowing anyone who is in a similar situation. The public posting allows ones to read the posts before joining and finding out they are not on there own. Some may not join the group but may feel better that there are others like them.
>
> I would be interested to see how others feel about this.
>
> Take Care
>
> Ian
>
> --- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, claire king <sophis_lady@ > wrote:
> >
> > thanks, i will have a look at the links when i can to sort my own group out, but i cant sort this one out- it wont let me edit as a moderator so its over to ian. where is ian?
> >
> > --- On Sun, 22/11/09, ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@ > wrote:
> >
> >
> > From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@ >
> > Subject: [dysthymia] Moderator Re: Privacy
> > To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> > Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 18:45
> >
> >
> >  
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > For the moderator. Here are some links with info how to change group settings.
> >
> > http://answers. yahoo.com/ question/ index;_ylt= As0HqvoWjkH. 3SV9.3EOpksP. Bd.;_ylv= 3?qid=2009111915 1623AAlnN3p
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> > From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@ yahoo.com>
> > To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> > Sent: Sun, November 22, 2009 1:36:02 PM
> > Subject: [dysthymia] Re: Privacy
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> > I'm so sorry to have caused anyone to panic. I just thought everyone should know if they didn't already. I've always been hesitent to post on any groups partly because of this. I want to feel comfortable to post here and not have to worry that my neighbor or anyone that knows my email address can read what I'm posting. I'll try to see if I can find how the settings can be changed.
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#2061 From: "HeatherW" <h.walker07@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 9:19 pm
Subject: Moderator Re: Privacy 		heather_dear...
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Hi,

Although it is worrying about what you can google these days and I don't think
making the group 'private' would help that much, I found this group through
google so I would hope that others could do so as well.
Heather
--- In dysthymia@..., "Ian W" <ianw4health@...> wrote:
>
> Hi Claire
>
> I'm still here! I don't have seemed to have spoken to you for some time. I
keep a check on the group most days and have posted where I have felt
apprpriarate. The group is moving along well, so as long as there is no problems
there is no need to fix it. If you follow what I mean.
>
> From what I am picking up some feel they want to make the posts private? I
acually tried this a while back as one of 2 where of the mind that it should be
private, however during that time there was no posts ............
>
> I can make the posts private if everybody is happy with this. However there is
a second issue, that is posts can be read by anyone by simply joining, unless we
go the whole way and moderate those joining the group.
>
> It still does no stop someone joining who a member may know (neighbour etc).
>
> The main reason I have kept the post public is that although Dysthymia is a
little better known than when the group started, it is still one of those
illnesses that is not well known, one of the worst things with an illness like
this is that you can feel isolated, not knowing anyone who is in a similar
situation. The public posting allows ones to read the posts before joining and
finding out they are not on there own. Some may not join the group but may feel
better that there are others like them.
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> --- In dysthymia@..., claire king <sophis_lady@> wrote:
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but i cant sort this one out- it wont let me edit as a moderator so its over to
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#2060 From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 8:13 pm
Subject: Re: Moderator Re: Privacy 		starryskyes05
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Ian,
Someone would already have to know that you belong to this group then join and read your posts instead of just doing a search of your email address and having all the post listed on a search engine. I just won't post anything I don't want everyone in the world to be able to read then. If you wanted to let other people like us to know they aren't alone then you could write a more detailed description of what Dysthymia is and they could join then unsubscribe if they didn't relate. My personal opinion is that that would be better than everyone on earth being able to so easily search for info on email addresses. Whatever everyone wants.











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From: Ian W <ianw4health@...>
To: dysthymia@...
Sent: Sun, November 22, 2009 2:55:47 PM
Subject: [dysthymia] Moderator Re: Privacy

 

Hi Claire

I'm still here! I don't have seemed to have spoken to you for some time. I keep a check on the group most days and have posted where I have felt apprpriarate. The group is moving along well, so as long as there is no problems there is no need to fix it. If you follow what I mean.

From what I am picking up some feel they want to make the posts private? I acually tried this a while back as one of 2 where of the mind that it should be private, however during that time there was no posts ............

I can make the posts private if everybody is happy with this. However there is a second issue, that is posts can be read by anyone by simply joining, unless we go the whole way and moderate those joining the group.

It still does no stop someone joining who a member may know (neighbour etc).

The main reason I have kept the post public is that although Dysthymia is a little better known than when the group started, it is still one of those illnesses that is not well known, one of the worst things with an illness like this is that you can feel isolated, not knowing anyone who is in a similar situation. The public posting allows ones to read the posts before joining and finding out they are not on there own. Some may not join the group but may feel better that there are others like them.

I would be interested to see how others feel about this.

Take Care

Ian

--- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, claire king <sophis_lady@ ...> wrote:
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#2059 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 8:08 pm
Subject: Re: Moderator Re: Privacy 		sophis_lady
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fair enough reply ian..
well personally i would prefer more private settings as in people cant google up my posts- i have just done that myself and was quite shocked and also found loads of other stuff.
like i said, i dont think i can stop everything on the net now, its gone too far, other than deleting all my accounts for things which also seems difficult to do, i cant get rid of yahoo questions, its redick. my google search was particually bad open wise.
i will speak more reluctantly in general i think.
i knew the group was open, but i thought just open to the group members, not the whole of the internet.
just concerned.

--- On Sun, 22/11/09, Ian W <ianw4health@...> wrote:

From: Ian W <ianw4health@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Moderator Re: Privacy
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 19:55

 
Hi Claire

I'm still here! I don't have seemed to have spoken to you for some time. I keep a check on the group most days and have posted where I have felt apprpriarate. The group is moving along well, so as long as there is no problems there is no need to fix it. If you follow what I mean.

From what I am picking up some feel they want to make the posts private? I acually tried this a while back as one of 2 where of the mind that it should be private, however during that time there was no posts ............

I can make the posts private if everybody is happy with this. However there is a second issue, that is posts can be read by anyone by simply joining, unless we go the whole way and moderate those joining the group.

It still does no stop someone joining who a member may know (neighbour etc).

The main reason I have kept the post public is that although Dysthymia is a little better known than when the group started, it is still one of those illnesses that is not well known, one of the worst things with an illness like this is that you can feel isolated, not knowing anyone who is in a similar situation. The public posting allows ones to read the posts before joining and finding out they are not on there own. Some may not join the group but may feel better that there are others like them.

I would be interested to see how others feel about this.

Take Care

Ian

--- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, claire king <sophis_lady@ ...> wrote:
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> thanks, i will have a look at the links when i can to sort my own group out, but i cant sort this one out- it wont let me edit as a moderator so its over to ian. where is ian?
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> Subject: [dysthymia] Moderator Re: Privacy
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#2058 From: "Ian W" <ianw4health@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 7:55 pm
Subject: Moderator Re: Privacy 		ianw4health
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Hi Claire

I'm still here! I don't have seemed to have spoken to you for some time. I keep
a check on the group most days and have posted where I have felt apprpriarate.
The group is moving along well, so as long as there is no problems there is no
need to fix it. If you follow what I mean.

From what I am picking up some feel they want to make the posts private? I
acually tried this a while back as one of 2 where of the mind that it should be
private, however during that time there was no posts ............

I can make the posts private if everybody is happy with this. However there is a
second issue, that is posts can be read by anyone by simply joining, unless we
go the whole way and moderate those joining the group.

It still does no stop someone joining who a member may know (neighbour etc).

The main reason I have kept the post public is that although Dysthymia is a
little better known than when the group started, it is still one of those
illnesses that is not well known, one of the worst things with an illness like
this is that you can feel isolated, not knowing anyone who is in a similar
situation. The public posting allows ones to read the posts before joining and
finding out they are not on there own. Some may not join the group but may feel
better that there are others like them.

I would be interested to see how others feel about this.

Take Care

Ian

--- In dysthymia@..., claire king <sophis_lady@...> wrote:
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> thanks, i will have a look at the links when i can to sort my own group out,
but i cant sort this one out- it wont let me edit as a moderator so its over to
ian. where is ian?
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#2057 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 7:00 pm
Subject: Re: Moderator Re: Privacy 		sophis_lady
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thanks, i will have a look at the links when i can to sort my own group out, but i cant sort this one out- it wont let me edit as a moderator so its over to ian. where is ian?

--- On Sun, 22/11/09, ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...> wrote:

From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Moderator Re: Privacy
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 18:45

 
For the moderator. Here are some links with info how to change group settings.

http://answers. yahoo.com/ question/ index;_ylt= As0HqvoWjkH. 3SV9.3EOpksP. Bd.;_ylv= 3?qid=2009111915 1623AAlnN3p

http://help. yahoo.com/ l/us/yahoo/ groups/original/ ownmod/inviting/ inviting- 17.html











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From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@ yahoo.com>
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Sent: Sun, November 22, 2009 1:36:02 PM
Subject: [dysthymia] Re: Privacy

I'm so sorry to have caused anyone to panic. I just thought everyone should know if they didn't already. I've always been hesitent to post on any groups partly because of this. I want to feel comfortable to post here and not have to worry that my neighbor or anyone that knows my email address can read what I'm posting. I'll try to see if I can find how the settings can be changed.
 











 




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#2056 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 6:58 pm
Subject: Re: Re: Privacy 		sophis_lady
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no its ok, im glad i know in a way, checked myself out on google. its gonna take ages to sort it tho and i dont know if that can even be done, if i can be private in this world when i want to be.

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From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Re: Privacy
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 18:36

I'm so sorry to have caused anyone to panic. I just thought everyone should know if they didn't already. I've always been hesitent to post on any groups partly because of this. I want to feel comfortable to post here and not have to worry that my neighbor or anyone that knows my email address can read what I'm posting. I'll try to see if I can find how the settings can be changed.
 











 



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#2055 From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 6:45 pm
Subject: Moderator Re: Privacy 		starryskyes05
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For the moderator. Here are some links with info how to change group settings.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=As0HqvoWjkH.3SV9.3EOpksP.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20091119151623AAlnN3p

http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/groups/original/ownmod/inviting/inviting-17.html











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From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...>
To: dysthymia@...
Sent: Sun, November 22, 2009 1:36:02 PM
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I'm so sorry to have caused anyone to panic. I just thought everyone should know if they didn't already. I've always been hesitent to post on any groups partly because of this. I want to feel comfortable to post here and not have to worry that my neighbor or anyone that knows my email address can read what I'm posting. I'll try to see if I can find how the settings can be changed.
 











 



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#2054 From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 6:36 pm
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I'm so sorry to have caused anyone to panic. I just thought everyone should know if they didn't already. I've always been hesitent to post on any groups partly because of this. I want to feel comfortable to post here and not have to worry that my neighbor or anyone that knows my email address can read what I'm posting. I'll try to see if I can find how the settings can be changed.
 











 


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#2053 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 6:16 pm
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thought u were male but just to be sure.
 
it sounds brilliant what you are doing and you should keep up the good work and look for more oportunities like that.
and yeah your writing is really good, it did stand out.
 
soz u have caught me at a bad time at mo :-/ i hope to speak more properly in future bout this type of stuff, am just having some panics at mo, xxx
 


--- On Sat, 21/11/09, ash b <ashus_mails@...> wrote:

From: ash b <ashus_mails@...>
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Hello
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Saturday, 21 November, 2009, 16:31

 

Hi Claire,

 

Oops!  I was being presumptuous. Ashish is a male name n literally means “Blessings”. To tell a bit about my self, I have been born n brought up in the city of Mumbai living with my family. My folks and my bro and his wife… Ya!! We all stay together.

 

I am surprised to here about you liking the way I write. I never thought about it. Do you really think so?

I am planning to switch profession. Have lost interest in accounting. Since last three years I have been working as a volunteer with a shelter home for runaway kids. It has made me realize quite a lot about my own life.. I must say it has made a world of difference to my perspective about life. Looking at them I have stopped complaining about petty things not working out in life. Though  it still sucks when I get those anxiety attacks every morning and other dysthymic symptoms every now n then.  I do crib a lot less. Point is this experience has given me a thought that why not work for a cause and make it career option or should I say life option. There are a lot of opportunities in social sector in India and a lot to do for the needy.   

 

To tell you about Indian scene on marriage. We do have system of arranged marriage but we have our choices. Prospective grooms and brides get proposals for marriage through relatives or friends and acquaintances other option is matrimonial internet sites (booming business in India ). There is a freedom to choose your own life partner. Though there are some restrictions with reference to religion and castes etc. India has a whole lot of castes and everything changes every 100 miles. Mostly people prefer to get married in their own caste simple reason being the culture, traditions, customs, food habits and lifestyle of different castes are dramatically different. This is more in rural areas but it’s evident in cities too. Only exception is if it’s a love marriage.  Marriage is a MUST in India a miniscule minority doesn’t get married, for whatever reasons. The biggest worry for parents in life is to get their daughter or son married in right age n to find right bride or groom.

It has now becomes a big issue in my house too. As I am well past the right marriage age n I can feel an invisible pressure from family n relatives to get married n settle down. ( One is not considered settled in life unless he/she is married) Though I still feel that am not ready yet. I am barely able to take my own life ahead. And in here marriage is really a big responsibility and I am not too sure if I could cope up with the responsibility.  I am aware that time is running out and there is no one in my life too (if that’s what you are thinking.)

The good point about all this is that the family values and bonding amongst the family members are very strong. Marriage is a highly regarded institution.  

 

I would surely like to know about all of you too. I see only 4 to 5 of 160 odd members in this group are active. I hope more n more members start sharing. As far as I am concerned I find it quite relaxing to write n read the mails.

 

Sadly I am too far way too meet you guys in person.

 

Ashish


From: claire king <sophis_lady@ yahoo.co. uk>
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Sent: Fri, 20 November, 2009 12:35:11 AM
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Hello

 
hiya, u male or female? i know the pressures can be different depending but are still there in india, are u living there now?
 
i think u have a talent for writing and should write more about society in india and perhaps lead the way for things to change and relax slightly for people, maybe a book, have u thought about that at all?
- that was wot was going through my mind whilst i was reading your email at my tarot table today at work, i didnt do a tarot card on it though, just wot i felt, then saw u had asked about wot the tarot might think- maybe that is what the universe thought and i didnt need to draw card, it was quite clear.
 
i would be interested to here more about the pressures in india and things, iv been watching the family a bit at mo on chanel 4 and thats been quite interesting.
 
things like forced marriages should be replaced by arranged marriages with consent etc or choosing yourself when you're ready.
i think it will take along time to change the way indias society is though, i dont know why they put their families through it. its not all bad though, some things are quite a good idea and overall there is alot of respect in families, respect for elders and things.
 
i dont know alot though as i dont live in that society. i think maybe england could learn some things though as some people let their families get out of control+dont take charge enough.
 
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--- On Thu, 19/11/09, ash b <ashus_mails@ yahoo.co. in> wrote:

From: ash b <ashus_mails@ yahoo.co. in>
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Hello
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Date: Thursday, 19 November, 2009, 5:54

 
Hi Claire,
 
I too feel that we have a unique gift but i have always been bogged down that i havent been able to explore it.only managed to maintain a status quo. Though not advisable as in the long run it has landed me in this situation. I am ok on my own and have come to terms with who i am and whts goin on with me . But the most difficult part is to keep pace with the society. In india we live a structured life . Things are expected to happen at a certain age.. education, job, marriage, family n all. Most are supose to lead a treaded path to life. Some one got gettign married becomes a BIG cause of concern for all. Social pressure n expectation is very heavy and I feel this adds to the agony. As I have to try and fight to fulfil it. People here are not aware of this condition or for that matter any othe related condition. The general impression about dpression is that its a result of  some trauma like heartbreak , loss of job, or loss of loved one. and it will go away with time. This general lack of awareness compels people to hide the fact that they are suffering from any psychologial disorder. Most of them simply wear a " I am ok" mask and try n live a normal life. Thats worse coz its impossible to lead a life that way as we know its not real and these suppressed feelings are bound to burst sometime or the other.
 
I strongly feel that having someone in life who understands and accept you eases the pressure to a great extent. Being alone and lonely is not a very good thing.
 
I hope I find my unique gift soon. May be i know what is it  but jut not taking the steps to unwrap it.
 
Hey may be you should let me know what  does Tarot reading tells you about me?
 
theres a lot more to know and there are a lot more questions still unsolved . I hope with everyones help of your help i will find the way.
 
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P.S. Just thought of adding some colour.
From: claire king <sophis_lady@ yahoo.co. uk>
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Sent: Thu, 19 November, 2009 12:32:58 AM
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Hello

 
hi, welcome to the group.
it is really sad to hear how other ppl suffer with dysthymia+how they live, and try to cope with things.
 
when i first joined this group a few years ago i thought i had just dysthymia, turns out to be cyclothymia which is similar but alternates with up moods like bipolar, which sounds good, and sometimes is but the ups can cause me to make mistakes, do crazy things, be irritable or grandiose and overly positive not think of consquences, and also not sleep!!! which is my biggest complant. im on mood stabilizers to try and help as anti d's made me worse.-understateme nt.
 
i think i have had it all my life too and inherited it off my mum who is bipolar. i have felt different all my life and my thoughts have felt strange. there must be a reason to it all.
 
i hope u can find the gift in your illness as iv started to think we must be this way for a reason. although i am still trying to live with as little symtoms as possible, which it doesnt seem to be possible. i think there must be something good to it all.
i am quite unique in the fact that im creative and a tarot reader etc, and everyone on this group seems more sensitive and particually good at expressing themselves.
so maybe have a think wot your unique gift to the world is, it has helped me be more tolerant of the illness but some days it doesnt feel fair i know.
 
i hope u are able to understand yourself better through this group :)
 


--- On Wed, 18/11/09, ash b <ashus_mails@ yahoo.co. in> wrote:

From: ash b <ashus_mails@ yahoo.co. in>
Subject: [dysthymia] Hello
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Date: Wednesday, 18 November, 2009, 7:25

 

Hello all,

 

After months of procrastination I am finally speaking up to say what I feel. I am Ashish from India . Found this yahoo group while surfing for Dysthymia related info.  Just wanted to find out if anyone else in this world feel the way I do and understand it .Don’t have any such group here in India .

 

 I was diagnosed with latent depression in 2000 and later in 2003 my Doc coined the term Dysthymia. That was when I consulted him after having a massive Double Depression episode. I guess have been suffering from it since I remember. May be born with it.  Till date have gone through all possible kinds of treatments right from anti deps. to counseling to group therapy etc. But all in vain.  Found a lot of stuff on web re: Dys and amazingly most of the symptoms were applicable to me.  Even the blogs on forum sites seemed to be written by me.

 

I don’t know if its only Dys. or anything else that has affected me n my life. Whatever it is has paralyzed me. Have been suffering on all fronts, be it my education, job or relationships. I am 34 now. Haven’ able to complete the Chartered Accountancy course I had taken up, have been doing sundry job ( which sucks ) and haven’t been able to get into a steady relationship.

 

Living a daily routine life is a struggle for me that starts with getting up in the morning. But the most difficult area is at work place where I am not able to function normally and find it so difficult to handle simple n routine tasks. Scared to take responsibilities.  There are days when I have to stay at home doing nothing but watching movies when not sleeping, at times for days together, and the worst part is to give different excuses about it to different people.

 

Life seems to be not going anywhere.  clueless about how to get out of it. In the process have lost confidence in myself. I get a feeling that I won’t be able to do anything. Not even drive a car.

 

Just wanted to share with you all. You guys are 7000 miles away. But at least there is a common thread.  

 

Thanks for listening.

 

Ashish


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#2052 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 6:02 pm
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thanks.
do u know how to change settings?
am just having a major privacy panicattack, the totality of it all has just overwhelmed me and caught up with me. i dont think there is really much people can do these days.

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From: lesleykemp@... <lesleykemp@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Re: social networking sites used against people
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 12:19

 
Keep your chin up Claire.  Sometimes it doesn't seem as if anything will go right but life has a strange old way of sorting itself out.  I had a terrible day yesterday but things are looking a little brighter today.
 
I had my facebook permanently deleted a while back and that was a major exercise in itself.  I had to Goggle how to get the damn thing deleted and then had to control myself not to log in for 15 days or else it would be automatically reactivated.  Anyway it's gone now and I have to say I don't miss it at all.  Out of my 400 plus 'friends' only 1 noticed I had disappeared.  Kinda says it all huh?
 
On a parallel note.  I notice this group is set for public view and our messages can be picked up by the search engines and I wonder if it might be an idea to change the settings so it's a private group.
 
Take care all and all good wishes from Les :)
 


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#2051 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 6:00 pm
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its for icb, no doctor coming round no, gotta get to the nearest centre or whatever, not sure yet.
 
i really dont want to have to go through courts and stuff and it is really out of order that people have to like with legs amputated and stuff.. and really worried now.

--- On Sun, 22/11/09, HeatherW <h.walker07@...> wrote:

From: HeatherW <h.walker07@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Re:social networking sites used against people
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 12:21

 
Claire,
about the medical exam is it a doctor coming round? I had one when I originally started getting DLA. I went on it because of I have neurofibromatosis type 2, nothing I can prove by seeing a doctor, I think they see you when it's something they're not used to. If you're benefits get cut, appeal, I've had to a couple of times, I don't think it's unusual, I know of someone having to to go to court to prove they couldn't walk, they'd had a leg amputated!!
It might be worth looking at what they assess http://www.disabili tyalliance. org/f2.htm and heres some advice from rethink http://www.mentalhe althshop. org/products/ rethink_publicat ions/disability_ living_al. html (you can download it at the right)
Are you able to have someone with you?
Good luck with it
Heather

--- In dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk, claire king <sophis_lady@ ...> wrote:
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> http://uk.news. yahoo.com/ 16/20091121/ ttc-insurers- using-facebook- to-investiga- 6315470.html
>  
> this is what i thought about last week and then thought nah the government cant check facebook for things but in usa it seems they can and prob uk as i found this today!!
>  
> i really think its out of order to check out potential employees this way or cut benefits etc. i wouldnt want an employer seeing wot i wear on fri nights. i keep social and work life seperate where i can cause it causes problems and has done in the past.
>  
>  
> i think its really out of order someones benefits were cut because she had depression but looked happy in her pictures!! i have pictures of me looking 'happy' on news years eve last year, but i had just been crying after a horrific argument with my stepdad and it took alot for me to go out at all, you have to smile for a picture!! photos dont mean fuck all and im outraged! i knew facebook was another government stalking tool, i feel invaded and like im not free to be myself in this world.
>  
> am really upset today and feel like my future is looking bleak as iv also got a medical exam coming up even though i didnt think i would have to have one. i dont understand the point of a physical examination for mental health probs. has anyone else been through this?
> i have a bad feeling i will get my benefits cut, my mum recently did. i dont know wot i will do without the support. i was starting to get somewhere, doing home course gcse german and building up my own business slowly-not getting enough money from it.
> i might as well forget all that though if i get benefits cuts and go back into retail get bullied and have another nervous breakdown.
>  
> what is the point. really worried. i've been having a bad feeling for about a week of what is it gonna be next? a waiting feeling, of impending enevitable doom. soz to be negative
>
> --- On Sat, 21/11/09, carol.norfolk@ ... <carol.norfolk@ ...> wrote:
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> From: carol.norfolk@ ... <carol.norfolk@ ...>
> Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
> To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> Date: Saturday, 21 November, 2009, 14:13
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> Well that's 3 who could probably manage Milton Keynes - anyone else?
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> From: Tim P <thehermitoftillywh i m@googlemail. com>
> To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> Sent: Saturday, 21 November, 2009 0:02:46
> Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
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> My parents have just moved to Banbury area, south Northants... !
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> Tim
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> 2009/11/20 <lesleykemp@ aol. com>
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> Can't make it to London but if you're ever in the Milton Keynes area, let me know!  :)  Is anyone else near me say Bucks, Beds, Northants way?
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#2050 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 5:46 pm
Subject: Re: Public view? 		sophis_lady
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i have checked the group settings but i cant edit. i have my own group unrelated subject and i cant find how to edit so that google search engines cant look stuff up on there either.
anyone with any more knowledge on this, please let me know, thanks.

--- On Sun, 22/11/09, claire king <sophis_lady@...> wrote:

From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Public view?
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 16:52

 
OMG IM LIKE FUCKING FAMOUS :( LOOK AT THIS..
 
 
PANIC ATTACK!!!!!! !!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!! !!!!

--- On Sun, 22/11/09, ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@ yahoo.com> wrote:

From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@ yahoo.com>
Subject: [dysthymia] Public view?
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 15:18


 Yes, I definitely think this group needs to be private. If someone Google's your email address all your posts to this group can come up. Do we really want just anyone,coworkers, bosses etc able to see what we write here? Our private feelings? I don't.






























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#2049 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 4:52 pm
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OMG IM LIKE FUCKING FAMOUS :( LOOK AT THIS..
 
 
PANIC ATTACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

--- On Sun, 22/11/09, ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...> wrote:

From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Public view?
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 15:18


 Yes, I definitely think this group needs to be private. If someone Google's your email address all your posts to this group can come up. Do we really want just anyone,coworkers,bosses etc able to see what we write here? Our private feelings? I don't.





























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#2048 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 4:50 pm
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good idea-change the settings whoever is clever and in charge, i think im also in charge but dunno how or wot to do.
 
getting paranoid about everything, i have been for several months about the world and lack of freedom/privacy. getting nightmares and stuff :-/

--- On Sun, 22/11/09, lesleykemp@... <lesleykemp@...> wrote:

From: lesleykemp@... <lesleykemp@...>
Subject: [dysthymia] Re: social networking sites used against people
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Sunday, 22 November, 2009, 12:19

 
Keep your chin up Claire.  Sometimes it doesn't seem as if anything will go right but life has a strange old way of sorting itself out.  I had a terrible day yesterday but things are looking a little brighter today.
 
I had my facebook permanently deleted a while back and that was a major exercise in itself.  I had to Goggle how to get the damn thing deleted and then had to control myself not to log in for 15 days or else it would be automatically reactivated.  Anyway it's gone now and I have to say I don't miss it at all.  Out of my 400 plus 'friends' only 1 noticed I had disappeared.  Kinda says it all huh?
 
On a parallel note.  I notice this group is set for public view and our messages can be picked up by the search engines and I wonder if it might be an idea to change the settings so it's a private group.
 
Take care all and all good wishes from Les :)
 


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#2047 From: ~Elayne~ <starryskyes05@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 3:18 pm
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 Yes, I definitely think this group needs to be private. If someone Google's your email address all your posts to this group can come up. Do we really want just anyone,coworkers,bosses etc able to see what we write here? Our private feelings? I don't.




























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#2046 From: "HeatherW" <h.walker07@...>
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 12:21 pm
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Claire,
about the medical exam is it a doctor coming round? I had one when I originally
started getting DLA.  I went on it because of I have neurofibromatosis type 2,
nothing I can prove by seeing a doctor, I think they see you when it's something
they're not used to.  If you're benefits get cut, appeal, I've had to a couple
of times, I don't think it's unusual, I know of someone having to to go to court
to prove they couldn't walk, they'd had a leg amputated!!
It might be worth looking at what they assess 
http://www.disabilityalliance.org/f2.htm and heres some advice from rethink
http://www.mentalhealthshop.org/products/rethink_publications/disability_living_\
al.html (you can download it at the right)
Are you able to have someone with you?
Good luck with it
Heather

--- In dysthymia@..., claire king <sophis_lady@...> wrote:
>
>
http://uk.news.yahoo.com/16/20091121/ttc-insurers-using-facebook-to-investiga-63\
15470.html
>  
> this is what i thought about last week and then thought nah the government
cant check facebook for things but in usa it seems they can and prob uk as i
found this today!!
>  
> i really think its out of order to check out potential employees this way or
cut benefits etc. i wouldnt want an employer seeing wot i wear on fri nights. i
keep social and work life seperate where i can cause it causes problems and has
done in the past.
>  
>  
> i think its really out of order someones benefits were cut because she had
depression but looked happy in her pictures!! i have pictures of me looking
'happy' on news years eve last year, but i had just been crying after a horrific
argument with my stepdad and it took alot for me to go out at all, you have to
smile for a picture!! photos dont mean fuck all and im outraged! i knew facebook
was another government stalking tool, i feel invaded and like im not free to be
myself in this world.
>  
> am really upset today and feel like my future is looking bleak as iv also got
a medical exam coming up even though i didnt think i would have to have one. i
dont understand the point of a physical examination for mental health probs. has
anyone else been through this?
> i have a bad feeling i will get my benefits cut, my mum recently did. i dont
know wot i will do without the support. i was starting to get somewhere, doing
home course gcse german and building up my own business slowly-not getting
enough money from it.
> i might as well forget all that though if i get benefits cuts and go back into
retail get bullied and have another nervous breakdown.
>  
> what is the point. really worried. i've been having a bad feeling for about a
week of what is it gonna be next? a waiting feeling, of impending enevitable
doom. soz to be negative
>
> --- On Sat, 21/11/09, carol.norfolk@... <carol.norfolk@...> wrote:
>
>
> From: carol.norfolk@... <carol.norfolk@...>
> Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
> To: dysthymia@...
> Date: Saturday, 21 November, 2009, 14:13
>
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>  
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>
> Well that's 3 who could probably manage Milton Keynes - anyone else?
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> From: Tim P <thehermitoftillywhi m@googlemail. com>
> To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
> Sent: Saturday, 21 November, 2009 0:02:46
> Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
>
>  
>
> My parents have just moved to Banbury area, south Northants... !
>
> Tim
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> 2009/11/20 <lesleykemp@aol. com>
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>  
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> Can't make it to London but if you're ever in the Milton Keynes area, let me
know!  :)  Is anyone else near me say Bucks, Beds, Northants way?
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#2045 From: lesleykemp@...
Date: Sun Nov 22, 2009 7:19 am
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Keep your chin up Claire.  Sometimes it doesn't seem as if anything will go right but life has a strange old way of sorting itself out.  I had a terrible day yesterday but things are looking a little brighter today.
 
I had my facebook permanently deleted a while back and that was a major exercise in itself.  I had to Goggle how to get the damn thing deleted and then had to control myself not to log in for 15 days or else it would be automatically reactivated.  Anyway it's gone now and I have to say I don't miss it at all.  Out of my 400 plus 'friends' only 1 noticed I had disappeared.  Kinda says it all huh?
 
On a parallel note.  I notice this group is set for public view and our messages can be picked up by the search engines and I wonder if it might be an idea to change the settings so it's a private group.
 
Take care all and all good wishes from Les :)
 

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#2044 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sat Nov 21, 2009 5:38 pm
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RIGHT THATS IT!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am sooooooo angry, i feel like getting a video camera and filming myself 24 hours a day or something working full time for a week or 2 and show them what i go through!! what stress that would put me under, how i wouldnt sleep, then would scrape through the day often collapsing, crying, how it affects my mood and how i end up insane after even a few days at that pace, the problems and arguments i would end up in with people, the endless worrying that then causes me etc etc...

--- On Sat, 21/11/09, claire king <sophis_lady@...> wrote:

From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:social networking sites used against people
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Saturday, 21 November, 2009, 17:32

 
 
this is what i thought about last week and then thought nah the government cant check facebook for things but in usa it seems they can and prob uk as i found this today!!
 
i really think its out of order to check out potential employees this way or cut benefits etc. i wouldnt want an employer seeing wot i wear on fri nights. i keep social and work life seperate where i can cause it causes problems and has done in the past.
 
 
i think its really out of order someones benefits were cut because she had depression but looked happy in her pictures!! i have pictures of me looking 'happy' on news years eve last year, but i had just been crying after a horrific argument with my stepdad and it took alot for me to go out at all, you have to smile for a picture!! photos dont mean fuck all and im outraged! i knew facebook was another government stalking tool, i feel invaded and like im not free to be myself in this world.
 
am really upset today and feel like my future is looking bleak as iv also got a medical exam coming up even though i didnt think i would have to have one. i dont understand the point of a physical examination for mental health probs. has anyone else been through this?
i have a bad feeling i will get my benefits cut, my mum recently did. i dont know wot i will do without the support. i was starting to get somewhere, doing home course gcse german and building up my own business slowly-not getting enough money from it.
i might as well forget all that though if i get benefits cuts and go back into retail get bullied and have another nervous breakdown.
 
what is the point. really worried. i've been having a bad feeling for about a week of what is it gonna be next? a waiting feeling, of impending enevitable doom. soz to be negative

--- On Sat, 21/11/09, carol.norfolk@ talk21.com <carol.norfolk@ talk21.com> wrote:

From: carol.norfolk@ talk21.com <carol.norfolk@ talk21.com>
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Date: Saturday, 21 November, 2009, 14:13

 
Well that's 3 who could probably manage Milton Keynes - anyone else?

 

From: Tim P <thehermitoftillywhi m@googlemail. com>
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Sent: Saturday, 21 November, 2009 0:02:46
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday

 
My parents have just moved to Banbury area, south Northants... !

Tim

2009/11/20 <lesleykemp@aol. com>
 
Can't make it to London but if you're ever in the Milton Keynes area, let me know!  :)  Is anyone else near me say Bucks, Beds, Northants way?





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#2043 From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
Date: Sat Nov 21, 2009 5:32 pm
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this is what i thought about last week and then thought nah the government cant check facebook for things but in usa it seems they can and prob uk as i found this today!!
 
i really think its out of order to check out potential employees this way or cut benefits etc. i wouldnt want an employer seeing wot i wear on fri nights. i keep social and work life seperate where i can cause it causes problems and has done in the past.
 
 
i think its really out of order someones benefits were cut because she had depression but looked happy in her pictures!! i have pictures of me looking 'happy' on news years eve last year, but i had just been crying after a horrific argument with my stepdad and it took alot for me to go out at all, you have to smile for a picture!! photos dont mean fuck all and im outraged! i knew facebook was another government stalking tool, i feel invaded and like im not free to be myself in this world.
 
am really upset today and feel like my future is looking bleak as iv also got a medical exam coming up even though i didnt think i would have to have one. i dont understand the point of a physical examination for mental health probs. has anyone else been through this?
i have a bad feeling i will get my benefits cut, my mum recently did. i dont know wot i will do without the support. i was starting to get somewhere, doing home course gcse german and building up my own business slowly-not getting enough money from it.
i might as well forget all that though if i get benefits cuts and go back into retail get bullied and have another nervous breakdown.
 
what is the point. really worried. i've been having a bad feeling for about a week of what is it gonna be next? a waiting feeling, of impending enevitable doom. soz to be negative

--- On Sat, 21/11/09, carol.norfolk@... <carol.norfolk@...> wrote:

From: carol.norfolk@... <carol.norfolk@...>
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday
To: dysthymia@...
Date: Saturday, 21 November, 2009, 14:13

 
Well that's 3 who could probably manage Milton Keynes - anyone else?

 

From: Tim P <thehermitoftillywhi m@googlemail. com>
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Sent: Saturday, 21 November, 2009 0:02:46
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Re:In London Tuesday

 
My parents have just moved to Banbury area, south Northants... !

Tim

2009/11/20 <lesleykemp@aol. com>
 
Can't make it to London but if you're ever in the Milton Keynes area, let me know!  :)  Is anyone else near me say Bucks, Beds, Northants way?




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#2042 From: ash b <ashus_mails@...>
Date: Sat Nov 21, 2009 4:31 pm
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Hi Claire,

 

Oops!  I was being presumptuous. Ashish is a male name n literally means “Blessings”. To tell a bit about my self, I have been born n brought up in the city of Mumbai living with my family. My folks and my bro and his wife… Ya!! We all stay together.

 

I am surprised to here about you liking the way I write. I never thought about it. Do you really think so?

I am planning to switch profession. Have lost interest in accounting. Since last three years I have been working as a volunteer with a shelter home for runaway kids. It has made me realize quite a lot about my own life.. I must say it has made a world of difference to my perspective about life. Looking at them I have stopped complaining about petty things not working out in life. Though  it still sucks when I get those anxiety attacks every morning and other dysthymic symptoms every now n then.  I do crib a lot less. Point is this experience has given me a thought that why not work for a cause and make it career option or should I say life option. There are a lot of opportunities in social sector in India and a lot to do for the needy.   

 

To tell you about Indian scene on marriage. We do have system of arranged marriage but we have our choices. Prospective grooms and brides get proposals for marriage through relatives or friends and acquaintances other option is matrimonial internet sites (booming business in India). There is a freedom to choose your own life partner. Though there are some restrictions with reference to religion and castes etc. India has a whole lot of castes and everything changes every 100 miles. Mostly people prefer to get married in their own caste simple reason being the culture, traditions, customs, food habits and lifestyle of different castes are dramatically different. This is more in rural areas but it’s evident in cities too. Only exception is if it’s a love marriage.  Marriage is a MUST in India a miniscule minority doesn’t get married, for whatever reasons. The biggest worry for parents in life is to get their daughter or son married in right age n to find right bride or groom.

It has now becomes a big issue in my house too. As I am well past the right marriage age n I can feel an invisible pressure from family n relatives to get married n settle down. ( One is not considered settled in life unless he/she is married) Though I still feel that am not ready yet. I am barely able to take my own life ahead. And in here marriage is really a big responsibility and I am not too sure if I could cope up with the responsibility.  I am aware that time is running out and there is no one in my life too (if that’s what you are thinking.)

The good point about all this is that the family values and bonding amongst the family members are very strong. Marriage is a highly regarded institution.  

 

I would surely like to know about all of you too. I see only 4 to 5 of 160 odd members in this group are active. I hope more n more members start sharing. As far as I am concerned I find it quite relaxing to write n read the mails.

 

Sadly I am too far way too meet you guys in person.

 

Ashish


From: claire king <sophis_lady@...>
To: dysthymia@...
Sent: Fri, 20 November, 2009 12:35:11 AM
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Hello

 

hiya, u male or female? i know the pressures can be different depending but are still there in india, are u living there now?
 
i think u have a talent for writing and should write more about society in india and perhaps lead the way for things to change and relax slightly for people, maybe a book, have u thought about that at all?
- that was wot was going through my mind whilst i was reading your email at my tarot table today at work, i didnt do a tarot card on it though, just wot i felt, then saw u had asked about wot the tarot might think- maybe that is what the universe thought and i didnt need to draw card, it was quite clear.
 
i would be interested to here more about the pressures in india and things, iv been watching the family a bit at mo on chanel 4 and thats been quite interesting.
 
things like forced marriages should be replaced by arranged marriages with consent etc or choosing yourself when you're ready.
i think it will take along time to change the way indias society is though, i dont know why they put their families through it. its not all bad though, some things are quite a good idea and overall there is alot of respect in families, respect for elders and things.
 
i dont know alot though as i dont live in that society. i think maybe england could learn some things though as some people let their families get out of control+dont take charge enough.
 
hm, interesting

--- On Thu, 19/11/09, ash b <ashus_mails@ yahoo.co. in> wrote:

From: ash b <ashus_mails@ yahoo.co. in>
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Hello
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Date: Thursday, 19 November, 2009, 5:54

 
Hi Claire,
 
I too feel that we have a unique gift but i have always been bogged down that i havent been able to explore it.only managed to maintain a status quo. Though not advisable as in the long run it has landed me in this situation. I am ok on my own and have come to terms with who i am and whts goin on with me . But the most difficult part is to keep pace with the society. In india we live a structured life . Things are expected to happen at a certain age.. education, job, marriage, family n all. Most are supose to lead a treaded path to life. Some one got gettign married becomes a BIG cause of concern for all. Social pressure n expectation is very heavy and I feel this adds to the agony. As I have to try and fight to fulfil it. People here are not aware of this condition or for that matter any othe related condition. The general impression about dpression is that its a result of  some trauma like heartbreak , loss of job, or loss of loved one. and it will go away with time. This general lack of awareness compels people to hide the fact that they are suffering from any psychologial disorder. Most of them simply wear a " I am ok" mask and try n live a normal life. Thats worse coz its impossible to lead a life that way as we know its not real and these suppressed feelings are bound to burst sometime or the other.
 
I strongly feel that having someone in life who understands and accept you eases the pressure to a great extent. Being alone and lonely is not a very good thing.
 
I hope I find my unique gift soon. May be i know what is it  but jut not taking the steps to unwrap it.
 
Hey may be you should let me know what  does Tarot reading tells you about me?
 
theres a lot more to know and there are a lot more questions still unsolved . I hope with everyones help of your help i will find the way.
 
thanks
P.S. Just thought of adding some colour.
From: claire king <sophis_lady@ yahoo.co. uk>
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Sent: Thu, 19 November, 2009 12:32:58 AM
Subject: Re: [dysthymia] Hello

 
hi, welcome to the group.
it is really sad to hear how other ppl suffer with dysthymia+how they live, and try to cope with things.
 
when i first joined this group a few years ago i thought i had just dysthymia, turns out to be cyclothymia which is similar but alternates with up moods like bipolar, which sounds good, and sometimes is but the ups can cause me to make mistakes, do crazy things, be irritable or grandiose and overly positive not think of consquences, and also not sleep!!! which is my biggest complant. im on mood stabilizers to try and help as anti d's made me worse.-understateme nt.
 
i think i have had it all my life too and inherited it off my mum who is bipolar. i have felt different all my life and my thoughts have felt strange. there must be a reason to it all.
 
i hope u can find the gift in your illness as iv started to think we must be this way for a reason. although i am still trying to live with as little symtoms as possible, which it doesnt seem to be possible. i think there must be something good to it all.
i am quite unique in the fact that im creative and a tarot reader etc, and everyone on this group seems more sensitive and particually good at expressing themselves.
so maybe have a think wot your unique gift to the world is, it has helped me be more tolerant of the illness but some days it doesnt feel fair i know.
 
i hope u are able to understand yourself better through this group :)
 


--- On Wed, 18/11/09, ash b <ashus_mails@ yahoo.co. in> wrote:

From: ash b <ashus_mails@ yahoo.co. in>
Subject: [dysthymia] Hello
To: dysthymia@yahoogrou ps.co.uk
Date: Wednesday, 18 November, 2009, 7:25

 

Hello all,

 

After months of procrastination I am finally speaking up to say what I feel. I am Ashish from India . Found this yahoo group while surfing for Dysthymia related info.  Just wanted to find out if anyone else in this world feel the way I do and understand it .Don’t have any such group here in India .

 

 I was diagnosed with latent depression in 2000 and later in 2003 my Doc coined the term Dysthymia. That was when I consulted him after having a massive Double Depression episode. I guess have been suffering from it since I remember. May be born with it.  Till date have gone through all possible kinds of treatments right from anti deps. to counseling to group therapy etc. But all in vain.  Found a lot of stuff on web re: Dys and amazingly most of the symptoms were applicable to me.  Even the blogs on forum sites seemed to be written by me.

 

I don’t know if its only Dys. or anything else that has affected me n my life. Whatever it is has paralyzed me. Have been suffering on all fronts, be it my education, job or relationships. I am 34 now. Haven’ able to complete the Chartered Accountancy course I had taken up, have been doing sundry job ( which sucks ) and haven’t been able to get into a steady relationship.

 

Living a daily routine life is a struggle for me that starts with getting up in the morning. But the most difficult area is at work place where I am not able to function normally and find it so difficult to handle simple n routine tasks. Scared to take responsibilities.  There are days when I have to stay at home doing nothing but watching movies when not sleeping, at times for days together, and the worst part is to give different excuses about it to different people.

 

Life seems to be not going anywhere.  clueless about how to get out of it. In the process have lost confidence in myself. I get a feeling that I won’t be able to do anything. Not even drive a car.

 

Just wanted to share with you all. You guys are 7000 miles away. But at least there is a common thread.  

 

Thanks for listening.

 

Ashish


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