José said "I mean who needs a boyfriend as a solution to your loneliness when you can have daily sharing with a more or less large group of people around?"
I think that individuals needs are different and vary a lot, and that the emotional commitments and levels of intimacy in monogamous relationships compared to a residential community group, can be different enough for them to be almost incomparable.
I'm not making any value judgement in saying that, only that I feel they can be completely different things.
In fact, I can see (and know of many) cases where couple relationships work incredibly well within residential community groups, but aren't compared to each other as they are seen as different things.
Also I know people who live in residential community groups where there are good mutual emotional and practical support networks in place, but people still feel lonely and that the community - wonderful as it is - doesn't fill that particular hole for that particular individual.
Dave.
-----Original Message-----
From: jose trapaga [mailto:josetrapaga2002@...]
Sent: 11 March 2005 10:29
To: ecc-public-discuss@...
Subject: Re: [ecc-public-discuss] Gay CommunitiesI guess what I understand by "community" is any group of gay men living together as a "family", supporting each other when old age comes and so on... I mean an environment which allows the individual to stop being obsessed with finding "someone special". I mean who needs a boyfriend as a solution to your loneliness when you can have daily sharing with a more or less large group of people around? See my point?
Chris <chris@...> wrote:
Well I think there are plenty of (substantially) gay households
around. Whether they would count as communities or not is moot.
What does count as a "community"?
--- In ecc-public-discuss@..., jose trapaga
<josetrapaga2002@y...> wrote:
> Does a permanent all-year-round gay community of people living
together really exist as part of ECC? I know about your gay men's
weeks, which I'll sooner or later take part of, but I keep wondering
wether there is something like a big gay family sharing everyday life
on a regular basis somewhere in the British Isles, or somewhere else.
>
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