Thanks for the comments. I would certainly be happy with that as a definition of community, though I suspect it is not the only one. For myself, I have a partner, but I would also find a benefit in sharing my life, or rather us sharing our lives in a larger group. However, whether we, as a couple, would relate to a larger group in the same way, I am not sure.
When you have a partner, many of the imperatives that make a community an attractive idea do become less important (e.g. not being alone). There are also disadvantages, like the two of us might want to be able to have more time to ourselves than a community might be able to allow. But there are also terrific benefits
the wider sharing of both joys and difficulties would make life richer, not to mention all the things you might afford as a group that as an individual or a couple you might not - things that immediately spring to mind are a Hot Tub, or an RV, but there are probably others.
Chris.
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From: Yossi B [mailto:yossibz2000@...]
Sent: 11 March 2005 10:49
To: ecc-public-discuss@...
Subject: Re: [ecc-public-discuss] Gay CommunitiesHi Josi,I definitely see your point. I'm 39, but have already come to the same conclusion as you have about forming a community of like-minded people instead of waiting for Mr. Right.The problem I have found when talking to others about this is the difference between fantasy and reality. It's as if by talking about concrete plans, they're admitting that they're getting old, and in gay society this is not something we're supposed to do. Aging doesn't really bother me, but I don't think I'm in the majority.I'm interested in forming such a community somewhere in the Mediterranean rim, though not necessarily on the sea.Yossi B.Jerusalem
jose trapaga <josetrapaga2002@...> wrote:I guess what I understand by "community" is any group of gay men living together as a "family", supporting each other when old age comes and so on... I mean an environment which allows the individual to stop being obsessed with finding "someone special". I mean who needs a boyfriend as a solution to your loneliness when you can have daily sharing with a more or less large group of people around? See my point?
Chris <chris@...> wrote:
Well I think there are plenty of (substantially) gay households
around. Whether they would count as communities or not is moot.
What does count as a "community"?
--- In ecc-public-discuss@..., jose trapaga
<josetrapaga2002@y...> wrote:
> Does a permanent all-year-round gay community of people living
together really exist as part of ECC? I know about your gay men's
weeks, which I'll sooner or later take part of, but I keep wondering
wether there is something like a big gay family sharing everyday life
on a regular basis somewhere in the British Isles, or somewhere else.
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