Hi everyone,
I have posted previously about wanting to remove my 9yr old daughter
from school because of her being unhappy. I just wondered if i am
doing the right thing by giving her so much decision making power. So
far we have let her decide as to whether she wanted to stay in school
or be home educated. She enjoys the learning, but she has problems
with the playground politics and she is rapidly loosing trust in her
teachers who continuously fail to respond when she has any problems
regarding her so called friends being horrible to her. To be honest
the school has some really stupid rules that put emphasis on the
wrong things and the pressure to perform well is unbelievable. At
least 3 times a week I walk out of there worrying about whether or
not i am letting her down.
I see my daughter becoming more and more unhappy and more focused on
worrying about what she got in a spelling test etc than what she is
actually learning, she now thinks she has been put down a level in
literacy and feels a failure because she hasn't got the 'handwriter
of the week' award or a special mention for something.
When i speak to her about HE (and thats at least once a week) she
says she wants to stay with her friends (well one in particular) and
no amount of promising that she can see her out of school will change
her mind. She is becoming more and more disruptive at home and admits
her concerns are over school, yet the school repeatedly say it isn't
their problem.
Part of me wants to pull her out before the damage is irrepairable
but i know if i take the choice away fom her she will resent me for
it. Any suggestions??