Hi kym

I know how hard it is my husband died 7 year ago 2 days before my
bithday and 3 wk before my sons and 4 wk before his own. Birthdays and
aniversarys are hard whenever they. It must be hard for your son. I
know my son has said how can he be happy with anything in life and have
fun if his dad is dead.

Have a look at our web site www.elizabethtucker.co.uk follow the links
to roger tucker and then to how his illness effected us.

You dont say how old your son is?

Ive written a book for small children you can see that on the web page
too.

Also try the web page for winston wish they are a charity who help
children with bearvment.

For you sons birthday you could you could do something together to
remember your husband eg lighting canndel buring it for day, writing a
message on a ballon to your husband and letting it go. Have you done a
memery box? Bye a special box put all the things together that remind
you of your husband eg card, photos, moments days out jewerary etc Then
later in the day do something for your sons birthday let him know its
ok to celebrate.

because my childen were very young ive kept a trunk full of stuff for
them silly things like clothes, paper with handwritting, ties he wore
for work etc because there memeries of the person will be so linited it
will bring alive the person to them.

I hope that helps please free to e mail me
elizabeth.tucker@...

Remember whatever you are doing to cope is fine we all react
differently and get there in the end.

XXX
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<kymharris5926@...> wrote:
>
> hi my name is kym
> i lost my husdand 28th jan last year to cancer on my son birthday , i
> have kept things together
> but now my son birthday in 2weeks how do i handle it
> my son wont talk about his dad he will walk out the room if someone
> starts talking. im at breaking point now i dont know what to do for
the
> best
> i know my husdand would want things to be as normal (but its not
> normal)
>
> my husband was told he had cancer in late november had 1st lot of key-
> mo was very ill went for 2nd treatment pass 2weeks later
> unknow primrey
>