My wife died last month of liver cancer so I'm still feeling pretty
raw.I'm sixty, live in Ireland by the Shannon, to where we retired
after working in Cornwall for most of our lives. I understand the
process of grieving and am currently going through the angry stage, I
want answers. So a question for the group. Some years ago my wife had
a masectomy of the right breast and the glands removed on that side
at Limerick hospital. Should she then have been offered chemotherapy?
Within a year she was put on yearly check ups? At which we had to
fight for proper scans? One of which they lost in the hospital so it
was just presumed it would have been clear?
Earlier this year she went to the specialist! with back pains and
darkening skin colouring. He said he'd arrange a scan some time in
the future! I lost patience, took her the next day to Ennis hospital
where she was admitted immediately. After a few days she was sent,in
great pain to Kilkenny hospital[140 miles away] to have a stent put
in.
They proceded to lose her between there and Dublin during the
next week. I learnt later this shuttling was due to them puncuring
her bowel trying to insert the stent.The stent, and all else they
tried failed, I had to fight to get my darling wife returned to a
local hospice.The rest is history, basically she died of starvation
unable to process food.
I apologise if this history is too graphic for you, you all
must have been through similar. Question? Do I accept fate, or seek
answers, pick at the raw wound? The questions I have asked to date
have, as expected, led to the closing of medical ranks.