speaking as an epieptic to all people with or living with epileptics
normal is considered what is socially and culturally acceptable but,
social and cultural will change normal thus altering the concerns of
cognitive social psychology. !STRANGE AH if you were born with
epilepsy you are 'normal' you just have fits, simple enough ah but,
if you have had a bad hit to the head you probably will end up having
epilepsy because of brain trauma. It is from this that (from
experiance and a degree course in psychology i speak) i can say,
epilepsy is not your (there) problem it is cognition. Because of the
brain dammage the cognition (thinking processing responce time)
causes you/them to appear to be not 'normal' thus although they/you
may pysically be appealable a patronisation comes in between them/you
and the 'partner' and 'we' become unloveable as sex objects. We are
viewed as ohh or ahh or poor thing not come here i want you now? This
dilemma is further complecated when you end up on sticks/wheelchairs.
Phenomenological psychology at face value can be a most beneficial
for understanding and/or revealing an individuals "self" through its
uninterrupted methodology through the use of Free Association
Narrative Interviewing (FANI) to establish a subjects "self". This is
where there is a difference Basically it is all about and quite
simply means,'talk to them/us, give them/us time to process what has
been said and to think of a reply. You will be very supprised at how
clever people actually are and--how sexy/lovable. WHAT? Simple
really, as Socroties once implied 'why should society follow each
other like sheep. We all have an opinion and a brain to process our
thoughts. Why then should we accept 'normal/fashionable' simply
because the majority says it is. Equally, Normal is based on a
majority rule so who is right and even if normal (majority of) has an
opinion why cant we challenge it and say 'your wrong?. I have a
different life style to you. Am i wrong or are you, should the answer
be based on a survey of 'majority rule (whats normal) or should we
accept that we are both right and then look for a common ground that
we can both agree to be normal. Why should we be ailianated because
we need sticks/wheelchairs and have fits. We are quite simply
'normal', yes, the same as you if given the chance we can hold down a
job if allowed to do it in our own time and can be 'normal' if given
the chance so hey lets work together on this. On this blogg you will
find links for help, love, holidays?? and accademic fact finding
solutions in 'romance and epilepsy'. check it out. we dont bite and
most peoples reasons for not geting involved with or objections are
based upon there fear of 'the unknown--us.