thankyou for your frank, and honest email, i value your comments.
Truth be known when i opened up my mail my wife was next to me and
thought i had written it for her to read about me and her. the
comparisons between us are remarkable. so, you can see why i set the
site up and what im hoping to achieve?
alot of 'our' problems i have found are a state of mind enduced by
the pills we have to take. what i have learnt through sitting a
degree in psychology is that, to understand our mind and how it
functions will give us a gateway to process information
and 'personal'! thoughts through an alternative gate. ie, because my
(our) responce time to bedroom conversation is slow i have learnt to
use body language to buy me time to process the information and think
of a suitable responce, (buying time). Equally as important is that
my, (our) wives have to understand therefore giving us time, in this
scinario my wife will 'play along' with my body language to give me
time.
As a starter i hope this has shon a light for you and yours and if i
may i wouls suggest you read the essay on 'cognition' and self
awareness, it may appear accademic but its relevant. from that we can
discuss further.
I would strongly recomend (if i may) you get your wife/family to read
and discuss it together as there is no point just you knowing ah, it
wont help her,
i look forward to having further talks with you
steve b