Hi Mandy! {{hug}} I think you need
one!<br><br>Sorry to hear that, as you may know I have suffered a
simular dilema last year with my Husband. He couldn't
live with the OCD anymore and as I was at the time
staying with a friend for a while as a break he wouldn't
let me return home with the OCD and if I did he was
going to walk out, so I sympathize with you!<br><br>I
can only say for myself this did have a huge effect,
I loved and still love my husband so much and I
didn't want to lose him, and somehow the need to hold on
to him and the fear of losing him made me take the
OCD under some control. I started doing things I
hadn't been able to do before in order to prove to him I
had the illness in control and was fighting it. I
have to say that for that time I felt as though I had
virtually got rid of the OCD, I was on medication (still
am) and for the first time in years it felt like I
could get free from this horrid illness and I felt like
I was walking on air because that's how free I
felt! In my case though, I soon realised nothing I
could do for him would be enough, he had met someone
else and so we are now separated. The thing is though
I do believe that if our brains are given something
else equally important to think about and in my case
something I feared losing more than I feared the OCD then
you can get some control over your symptoms....not
cure!! but control, of course I was helped also by the
meds!<br><br> How long that control lasts is another thing, if
it can be backed up with therapy then it has a good
chance, in my case, although it didn't work regarding my
husband, I have still managed to maintain quite a lot of
control over my symptoms, but this varies from day to day
some days are good somedays not so good. I don't think
I shall ever be totally free from it but at least I
do have enough control over it to live relatively
normally...although some time's it seems as though I am attached to
the sink by elastic! lol<br><br>Of course everyone is
different and everyone's OCD Symptoms although simular are
different, I now know that being a partner to someone with
OCD is extremely difficult and hard to live with,
therefore I think your husband must have reached rock
bottom with it, in the end this is his only and last way
of showing you that he can't live with it anymore,
it's a cry for help almost, just as we as sufferers
cry for help. If he is prepared to support you and
encourage you to get help, go with you to visits Dr's,
Phsychologists etc then it can be a good thing, but if this a a
threat that he isn't prepared to back up with help for
you both then it probably won't help.<br><br>I hope
sharing my story helps a little bit, let us know how it
goes, <br><br>love Sani. xx