Hey, glad to hear that you tried something new and like it.

What made you try it?

Where did you get your ring?


It's also cool to hear that your girlfriend digs it and even buffs
your nails. You're a damn lucky SOB. lol One girl I was seeing liked
the ring I wore, but wasn't too keen on my buffed nails. She didn't
let it bother her or put her off, but, whenever you could get her to
be totally honest, she admitted that she found it a little odd.
Almost as though she'd rather I didn't. (but apparently part of that
was the juxtapositon of my size, build and overall appearance, she
said it clashed somewhat)

Personally, I think it was mostly just a case of not being accustomed
to it. Most people who don't like the idea of guys wearing sandals,
let alone anything more, are simply put off by the alien nature of
it. Had they grown up with it, it would be perfectly normal and
acceptable to them.

And you're right about many guys and how they don't care for their
feet. It's nasty. Dried, calloused, scaly and cracked skin, yellowed
or darkened nails that are poorly trimmed, etc.

Those guys are the ones who are responsible for the small group of
women who still do not like the idea of guys wearing sandals. In a
way, they are holding us all back. lol

And yes, feet like that mixed with a ring or anything else would
really be out of place. Tans aren't super important, as long as the
overall body tone is inline. Hair should be shaved. Infections should
be dealt with, callouses should be sanded, and the foot should be
moisturized all the time. Then put that into some nice shoes. Not
cheap-ass rubber flip flops, or crappy beat up athletic sandals and
the like. Some nice leather sandals, with leather uppers and insoles,
arch support, cushioning, and a look that is clearly not "cheap". Of
course, you then have to continue down (or in this case, up) the
chain, moving to pants (or shorts) and shirts. But that too can be a
good thing and something that most of those guys need too.

Not to get off on a rant... lol


How do you like the buffed nails? How far does your girl take them? I
stumbled on the whole thing purely by chance. I bought the wrong
thing, found out long after that it was a nail buffing kit, tried it
for a laugh, and found out that I liked it (to my surprise). Since
then I've continued to do it, and I try to get the maximum amount of
gleam out of them that I possibly can.


Don't worry about others or acceptance. I know that's easy to say.
But it's still true. You know it looks good, right? You know you are
straight, right? You know your girl likes it, right? 'nuff said. How
many of those "mates" are single? That's something to toss back at
them. lol

I'm on the east coast of the US. When I first got my ring, the girl I
was with absolutely loved it. She wasn't keen on my nail buffing, but
she also didn't get too put off by it either. I got all kinds of
positive attention from women, from outright compliments (some of
which were golden opportunities that I totally blew... ugh), to
stares with positive expressions, and smiles following glances down.
As well as the occasional girl just flat out staring as she walked
by. (I get a kick out of that lol)

So yeah, try not to be self concious about it or worry what other
people will think. Wear it with confidence and if need be, just keep
thinking about how your girl likes it, and how that probably helps
not only keep her happy, but, lead to keeping you a little happier
too, if ya know what I mean. ;) Also, if she liked it, it's logical
that more girls are bound to like it too, right?

Some things to think about - novelty is good. Standing out in a crowd
gets you noticed. Doing something that nobody else is doing makes you
a bit more interesting, and also in many cases shows some amount of
courage and confidence, which also shows good self esteem and a lack
of neediness. These are all attractive traits. Having a personality
that is different, is part of that, and you often don't get time to
display yours with interactions, so sometimes ya just gotta wear it,
so to speak. You use your clothes, and accessories, along with body
language, to convey this.


Now, that said, try not to take it too far. Often when people first
find something new that they like, they go nuts. Look around this
board, and others like it, and you'll see a lot of guys leaning into
cross dressing. That's a bad idea.

For a lot of reasons. Firstly, if you're straight, you're trying to
pull down hot women, and they are attracted to *men*, not
transvestites. But secondly, we all just want to be accepted. And if
the overal idea about sandals and rings is too strong, it might
remain *too* obscure, and lead to women being put off. (if ya think
about it, it kinda goes hand in hand with what I said above - they
want men, not t-vs, or effeminette types, and so if NO straight men
wear a particular item, any guy who does will be viewed with
suspicion and written off as dating potential rather quickly)

So basically that means, you almost want to convince the guys like
your friends who rip on you, to start doing it too. At *least* to
start wearing nice sandals and taking care of their feet. But, if you
go too far (feminine jewelry, shoes, color, etc), it will only serve
to really put them off it entirely (not to mention drive the women
off).

One thing to do is to make sure that your shoes, and overall
appearance are both nice (not dressy, but at least "cool" and look
good), and that your rings are wide band, and masculine in nature.
(for instance, stay away from the super narrow bands, and flower
designs, and colored stones and the like)

In time, they'll get past it, get used to it, and if they see you
attracting women while dressed that way, they may even come to like
the idea. Or at least be open to suggestions from you that they try
it. ;) heh heh


I really beleive that we can look quite good in sandals of all types.
And that we can rock them with looks ranging from shorts to semi-
dressy outfits. (and that shorts can actually look good too, they
don't have to have the bad stigma of "casual", even though they
clearly aren't dressy) I have a nice dressy pair of sandals that I
wear with jeans and a nice t-shirt, or a cool t-shirt covered by a
woven linen shirt with cool images (stylized asian dragons, tribal
flames, etc, etc). The former looks a bit more casual and is good for
general purpose, the latter looks even better and is good for going
to bars, certain kinds of clubs, dating site meet 'n greets, etc.
(I've worn that to such gatherings and nobody batted an eye. I've
also worn it to a club and had the hot hostess tell me I was dressed
nicely). I also have foud that those sandals (which are open toe)
look good with my work wear (polos and khakis - IT lol). I was going
to start wearing them to the office, but when I got the idea, it was
too cool, or rainy, and now the summer is over. Next year I certainly
will however. (I wore my ring and touched up the buffing for max
gleam to all those places, but I would not do either of those for the
office....)

As part of that, I feel that we can also benefit from jewelry and
nail care. I know that we look good with toe rings, it's just a
matter of getting the right one and having the whole look work
together. And I know we look good with buffed nails. I had a hot girl
suggest I try an anklet. But she suggested leather or hemp, or
something like that, and to shy away from silver. She's got issues
with "bling", but she moved here after the commie regime fell, so she
has some of those issuse still plaguing her. lol

I've even tried nail polish. And I think *that* can look good too.

I see it this way - when the shoe exposes the foot, the foot kind of
becomes part of the shoe, and should be dressed up to match the
overall outfit. Nail polish is great for covering up any dark or
yellow spots. It's easy to care for, and feet don't take the beating
a mans hands do, so it kinda works.

Thing is, a lot of women aren't ready for that yet. But regardless of
that, the key is 'how'. Clear is just like buffed, only with a deeper
shine. Beyond that, the colors need to be masculine - silvers,
chromes, metallics. Essentially good car colors. lol No pink, no red,
no pastels, etc. And the rest of the look becomes even more vital.

I'm not suggesting you start painting your nails (unless your girl
would dig that even more so, but let her come up with the idea lol),
just sort of rambling about where I would like to see things get
eventually. I just think that we can, and really need to, do it in a
way that is masculine. Something that would look good, yet not be
feminine at all.


Anyway..... sorry for the rambling. Rock the ring, and the buffed
nails. Work on aligning your wardrobe to work with it. Stay on the
lookout for nice sandals to work with and enhance all that. You'll
LOVE it in no time and be trying to wear them as often as possible
I'll bet. ;) And you'll get lots of positive attention from it too.

Just remember to keep a masculine edge to anything you do or wear,
and you may just become a trend setter. B)